bluntly, I understand ones intentions to protect themselves but sometimes your heart tells you to go for it and take a chance ,even if you got hurt in the end your heart was still right you must’ve concluded something valuable from it .. I think if you don’t allow yourself to go through situations that require you getting out of your comfort zone you won’t be able to have a broader view on things and therefor you won’t have much understanding to whatever it was that’s going out of your way,to live and be caged in your own thought is very dangerous cause you can easily misunderstand and misinterpret intentions and situations but don't be too keen on what people tell you either, even If you worry or concern yourself about what people think , there will be no space to act freely or explore yourself,let it be,in the end only the truth will remain standing while all the gossip fall,be confidant and follow your heart out of your comfort zone,after all the happiness you prayed so long for wont appear unless you make a move,only doing the same old will result you your same old,isn't it