Potato_Pope?navarre_rtaApril 26 2009, 22:51:29 UTC
I also like to think playing in good faith reflects on those contacted by a PropCo in a fair and reasonable manner, that they should likewise respond in a fair and reasonable manner in an OOC fashion; IC is a whole other ball game.
I also think that if two people can't 'negotiate' that they should accept that they don't see eye to eye and draw in a mediator if possible to help them nut out what it is the two individuals are hoping to create in regards to RP/Story. Otherwise both individuals should just walk away and leave each other and their various prop (whichever was being discussed) alone.
In regards to trust; it's a 2-way street.
I like to think individuals are mature enough to contact PropCo's on their own and discuss matters with them to learn for themselves whether or not a player can be trusted or is open to negotiation.
I can use myself as an example; I had been told that a certain individual had issues with me - that same individual was hearing something along similiar lines. 2 other players told me to contact said individual and find out firsthand so finally I did. I like to think that particular individual and I accept there is no issue OOC; of course IC is another story but that's what it is, story.
Since then, I've heard negative things about a few different individuals but now I contact them to find out for myself; I don't take someone else's gospel as fact any more. You start doing that, then you start alienating yourself from play within various spheres/props and for what? Relying on information from one source who just may have got it wrong? Ask yourself too, is it really going to hurt me to take five minutes to find out for myself? The answer is no and in most instances, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Also thus far, nobody who has commented here appears to be making any unreasonable suggestions or decisions.
Re: Potato_Pope?faelin_rtaApril 26 2009, 23:01:40 UTC
That's the problem though. I think any and all of us would say "If you are being unreasonable, people won't like you." It's common sense in a way.
Unfortunately differing people have differing ideas of what is reasonable and what is not. In your examples? I very likely didn't see the same strengths or weaknesses you did.
And - let's be honest. All of us are capable of misinterpreting tone in text when we are tired, pissed at work, or whatever. All of us are capable of being snippy or shorter in writing the text sometimes too. What sounds unreasonable may not be 'meant' to be unreasonable, if that makes sense.
Which brings us back to the onus of acting as adult as we can, not blowing the situation up and gossiping about it to others, and falling back on the mechanical resolutions or staff assistance as need be. There are some people we're never going to like or like playing with. That's life.
Re: Reasonablenesskynan_r2aApril 27 2009, 00:14:32 UTC
I was thinking about a while back, and I would agree with Faelin's comment about differing ideas of what is reasonable. Even if you presume one is trying to negotiate in good faith, there is the issue that if you and I don't agree on the basic parameters of the end state, we are unlikely to have a good experience.
For example, lets take combat consequences. If I think an appropriate one is to be in the hospital for a week, in bed for another, then limping for two more, and you think in terms of days rather than weeks, if I happen to tag you with a consequence then our negotiation is probably going to end up with neither of us satisfied if we even come to agreement. And since each of us sincerely believe our positions, it's not a question of "bad faith".
Thus, I think that in addition to the mechanical systems and consent policies, that it is a good idea to develop a community sense of what "reasonable" means in various contexts.
I also think that if two people can't 'negotiate' that they should accept that they don't see eye to eye and draw in a mediator if possible to help them nut out what it is the two individuals are hoping to create in regards to RP/Story. Otherwise both individuals should just walk away and leave each other and their various prop (whichever was being discussed) alone.
In regards to trust; it's a 2-way street.
I like to think individuals are mature enough to contact PropCo's on their own and discuss matters with them to learn for themselves whether or not a player can be trusted or is open to negotiation.
I can use myself as an example; I had been told that a certain individual had issues with me - that same individual was hearing something along similiar lines. 2 other players told me to contact said individual and find out firsthand so finally I did. I like to think that particular individual and I accept there is no issue OOC; of course IC is another story but that's what it is, story.
Since then, I've heard negative things about a few different individuals but now I contact them to find out for myself; I don't take someone else's gospel as fact any more. You start doing that, then you start alienating yourself from play within various spheres/props and for what? Relying on information from one source who just may have got it wrong? Ask yourself too, is it really going to hurt me to take five minutes to find out for myself? The answer is no and in most instances, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Also thus far, nobody who has commented here appears to be making any unreasonable suggestions or decisions.
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Unfortunately differing people have differing ideas of what is reasonable and what is not. In your examples? I very likely didn't see the same strengths or weaknesses you did.
And - let's be honest. All of us are capable of misinterpreting tone in text when we are tired, pissed at work, or whatever. All of us are capable of being snippy or shorter in writing the text sometimes too. What sounds unreasonable may not be 'meant' to be unreasonable, if that makes sense.
Which brings us back to the onus of acting as adult as we can, not blowing the situation up and gossiping about it to others, and falling back on the mechanical resolutions or staff assistance as need be. There are some people we're never going to like or like playing with. That's life.
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For example, lets take combat consequences. If I think an appropriate one is to be in the hospital for a week, in bed for another, then limping for two more, and you think in terms of days rather than weeks, if I happen to tag you with a consequence then our negotiation is probably going to end up with neither of us satisfied if we even come to agreement. And since each of us sincerely believe our positions, it's not a question of "bad faith".
Thus, I think that in addition to the mechanical systems and consent policies, that it is a good idea to develop a community sense of what "reasonable" means in various contexts.
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