I think you're right to be concerned. This doesn't sound like shamanism to me so much as possible abuse and/or brainwashing going on. Not sure what to tell you, other than to make it clear to your friend that you're still here for her. If you push too hard, she may back away from you even further.
Maybe try to find out who the so-called "shaman" is and see what you can find out about them, and report them to any and all appropriate authorities if doing so is appropriate. Unfortunately, there may be nothing concrete to report them for, even if they do have a questionable history. Sorry I can't be of more help. I'm glad you're not accepting these sudden changes in your friend without question, and that you're paying attention to the red flags.
Good points, thanks for such a quick response, it's greatly appreciated. I will for sure let her know I'm here for her and try and check these places out.
Experience with shamanism or abusive strangers? There are shamans who are legit and very knowledgable healers and/or leaders. Sadly, there are also abusive crazy people who get off on control and use that power to isolate their victims.
Is this person a legit shaman? No one will be able to tell you that over the internet. My advice would be to check them out, talk to your friend and offer your love and support. You cannot control what she does or who she believes but you can let her know that you care about her no matter what.
This doesn't sound right for a true shaman, more a controlling person but let your friend know you are there for her. Perhaps without pushing you can ask her more about it, tell her you'd love to find out more about what she's so attracted to and see if she opens up(if she doesn't another HUGE red flag). I would definitely look into this person though if it's caused such a drastic change in her so fast. Best of luck.
as a pagan who has close friends who have shamanistic practices...
its no difference than any other ministry of any religion. there are very good individuals who live their lives to help others and encourage them along their way, and there are very sketchy individuals who use their "calling" to isolate and abuse the people who trust them.
please continue to be there for your friend, and keep reminding her that you care about her and her continued well-being. if she is in a bad place (i dont know personally, but it does NOT sound as though she is thinking things clearly for herself) she needs all the good caring friends she can get, even if she doesnt think so right now.
Be there for your friend no matter what. I have had some crazy times in my life and the friends who stuck by me while I discovered myself in forests of mushrooms are family to me. Some people enjoy changing everything/ just letting go and exploring parts if life they never have before. My memories if life in the underbelly of society have made me a strong human being. My times living in the forest helped me discover who I am. Now I am a horticulturist who also collects all things mushrooms( I haven't done poised ones for years though)
Perhaps your friend is trying to find herself, and sometimes that requires isolation. Possibly a separation from the heard? I know that it seems suspicious so yes it is a good idea to keep in contact with her. Sometimes in order for us to make great change, we have to let go of the past in very drastic ways. Let her "process" for a while, but don't give up on your friendship.
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Maybe try to find out who the so-called "shaman" is and see what you can find out about them, and report them to any and all appropriate authorities if doing so is appropriate. Unfortunately, there may be nothing concrete to report them for, even if they do have a questionable history. Sorry I can't be of more help. I'm glad you're not accepting these sudden changes in your friend without question, and that you're paying attention to the red flags.
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Is this person a legit shaman? No one will be able to tell you that over the internet. My advice would be to check them out, talk to your friend and offer your love and support. You cannot control what she does or who she believes but you can let her know that you care about her no matter what.
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This doesn't sound right for a true shaman, more a controlling person but let your friend know you are there for her. Perhaps without pushing you can ask her more about it, tell her you'd love to find out more about what she's so attracted to and see if she opens up(if she doesn't another HUGE red flag). I would definitely look into this person though if it's caused such a drastic change in her so fast. Best of luck.
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its no difference than any other ministry of any religion. there are very good individuals who live their lives to help others and encourage them along their way, and there are very sketchy individuals who use their "calling" to isolate and abuse the people who trust them.
please continue to be there for your friend, and keep reminding her that you care about her and her continued well-being. if she is in a bad place (i dont know personally, but it does NOT sound as though she is thinking things clearly for herself) she needs all the good caring friends she can get, even if she doesnt think so right now.
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