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[natalexx]

I am posting from my awesome new laptop. And! I'm not plugged in! I am all wireless and stuff! Dude, happy birthday to me!

I'm also watching this week's 2 hour Grey's Anatomy. I have a serious problem with the way they're handling Cristina's wedding phobia. What the hell's supposed to be wrong with a woman who is willing to commit because she

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[pataka02]

See, I completely relate to Cristina in many ways and until recently I felt like Burke respected her as she was, but lately he's just been a mess.

I love Christina as well, and relate most to her and Meredith, probably. Their friendship is my favorite part of the show...

But I've never felt that Burke really truly respected Christina. The way he takes control of their relationship -- telling the Chief against her wishes, deciding that they should move in together, his whole "I'm Preston Burke" speech, and the proposal/wedding plans -- just irritates me to no end. I get that he's supposed to be "softening" Christina, but it seems more like he's just dominating her and disregarding who she is or who she wants to be. Yes, she's an aggressive person, but Meredith has done a far better job at "softening" Christina in an entirely different way, just by being there for her consistently. I mean, is it so bad that she never saw herself getting married? Or that she's not into wedding stuff? Why do the Grey's writers/Burke keep trying to cast Christina as "wrong" and unfeminine or something...

Phew. That was a long rant! Sorry! But lately I'm finding all of the men on Grey's to be sorely lacking...

[natalexx]

Heh, there are certain characters who get me just as riled up--Burke just isn't usually one of them. However, I think I've watched his relationship with Cristina differently than you. Maybe because I relate more to Cristina-post-Softening--and yeah I agree, Meredith has had a lot to do with that organic "softening" or whatever you want to call it, but mostly it was about Cristina allowing herself to soften, and Burke was certainly a motivating factor there. But to me, for instance, Burke's "I'm Preston Burke" speech was Burke asserting himself in exactly the same way Cristina always had, making it clear who he was and who he was gonna be but leaving it her choice whether she was going to choose *him* like he chose her. Their relationship has been a delight to watch because it was all about choices, really--mutual choices, not just one setting out a demand and the other agreeing repeatedly--it was each of them making it clear where they wouldn't compromise, where the lines were drawn and where they might be able to give a little bit. You're right, the relationship has been more uneven lately, and it's...annoying. Cristina agreed to marry Burke and meant it, but she made it very clear she didn't want to be steamrolled by the whole wedding process and he just keeps pushing her further and further into it. It's like he's actually trying to break her. Kinda freaks me out to watch, dude, to be honest, because wedding planning makes me tense up like whoa. (I thought making her friends pick between stupid details like the "perfect flavor of cake" was brilliant. After all, they're the ones who will care what they're eating at the reception, yeah? Makes perfect sense to me.)

Anyway. Regardless, the breakdown of their relationship does seem sadly realistic. And, heh, you find the men of Grey's to be sorely lacking lately...but I'm suspecting more and more that Grey's is surprisingly sexist. In this episode alone, omg, look at Addison--having a breakdown because she's incomplete without a man so she looks to fulfill herself with a *baby*--and her friend whatshername, Naomi, with the "wah, wah, my life is incomplete because I didn't sleep around more!" speech. Not to mention how oogling the underage nipples made their entire day improve. *shudder* Then again, both genders were pretty much utterly pathetic this week. I hope they remind me why this show is fun to watch by the season finale.

[pataka02]

Cristina agreed to marry Burke and meant it, but she made it very clear she didn't want to be steamrolled by the whole wedding process and he just keeps pushing her further and further into it. It's like he's actually trying to break her. Kinda freaks me out to watch, dude, to be honest, because wedding planning makes me tense up like whoa.

Makes me scared, too, because if he's pushing her this much during the wedding, what's their marriage gonna be like? Have they even talked about ever having children, post-Christina's miscarriage?

It's all so rushed. And I think that's one of my biggest problems with Grey's this season. The clinic? Built in a week. Ridiculous. George and Callie? So quick it's ridiculous. George's mom never being seen after his dad dying? Susan? Ellis? Everything??? It's stretching almost as badly as 24. It's like there's no continuity; one week Derek says he'll always come back to Meredith, the next he's walking away. It's all uneven and very moment to moment.

you find the men of Grey's to be sorely lacking lately...but I'm suspecting more and more that Grey's is surprisingly sexist. I agree, wholeheartedly. I was disturbed with the way Addie talked about having a kid, as if it would fix her life -- a brand new accessory or something. And then to make it that she's barren (post-having an abortion), makes it seem like some weird karmic payback, which I hate. Addie being pregnant and moving to LA would have been interesting, in my opinion, because the last thing I want to see is another group of doctors, gossiping about how much sex they are/aren't having. Especially ones that are so much older.

I wish this show would be fun again, and about the competitiveness of surgery, and the interns as a family. I love that. I love them fighting for cases, and figuring out how to be doctors, and not just gazing at each other longingly. I was never a big fan of the second season long love triangle, but even it was better than the mess that is this season. I'm finding it hard to like anyone but Christina and Meredith, who I want to leave Seattle Grace and go on a road trip... and Bailey and Alex could join.