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oh my. its been quite a weekend, and its not even sunday yet.
so i got my fake id taken away at a bar on friday night. what sucks even more is that it was a bar i've been to like 7 times. its so sad cause i've had my id since freshman year! its gone through college with me and has been responsible for countless numbers of wonderful drunken nights. *moment of silence for my id which is now in the pocket of some stupid Our House bouncer*
so after a night of partying and being molested by a sketchy guy and sleeping on a couch instead of a bed which was supposed to be my bed, and waking up incredibly hung over, the last thing i needed was to be involved in a car accident.
so its like 1 in the afternoon, lisa and i are completely sober and not hungover anymore, and i'm like "i should go home". lisa was like "call carrie and find where her keys are, and i'll drive you" so i'm like "awesome" and go call carrie (keep in mind that carrie and lisa drive each other's cars all the time).
conversation with carrie:
carrie: "hello?"
me: "hi! _____ (<-- some stuff about sheila's birthday here, talking to sheila and saying happy birthday, etc etc). Carrie, where are your keys 'cause lisa is gonna probably gonna drive me home later?"
carrie: "uh, i think martha might have them cause she was thinking of taking the car, or they could be in my room somewhere. make sure that i have a parking space though cause i dont want to have to park on the street" (they've been having issues with their parking lot and finding a spot)
me: "ok well we probably wont take it anyway cause we probably won't be able to find your keys"
carrie: "ok bye"
me: "bye"
literally that was almost word for word exactly what carrie and i said to each other. so lisa finds carrie's keys on the kitchen table and is like "oh yay i can drive you home". so we get in the car and turn down parker street by my building, and end up getting stopped behind a guy in a big ass SUV who's waiting to parallel park. so the guy pulls up past the spot, and lisa pulls up behind him, stopping completely. the guy starts to back up and lisa and i are like "oh shit!" lisa starts honking the horn but the guy was backing up too fast and ended up hitting the camry we were in, causing the hood of the car to be bent (no structural damage to the car though and it still ran just fine). so we get out, exchange the licence, registration, and insurance info with the guy and i'm like "ok we should call carrie and tell her". so i call her and this is our conversation:
carrie: "hello?"
me: "hi carrie, i'm really sorry but this guy backed up into us while he was trying to parallel park and -" (<-- that's me getting cut off by carrie's yelling)
carrie: "wait. so you guys got into an accident in my car?"
me: "yeah but its not that bad - "
carrie: "no. you guys got into an accident in my car, that you were driving without my permission!"
me: "carrie, you said we could take it and its not that bad because - "
carrie: "no! you just asked me where my keys were. you didn't say you were taking my car!"
me: "carrie! what did you think we were gonna do!?"
carrie: "no, you took my car without my permission and got into an accident!"
me: "carrie you shouldn't be that upset you need to listen to the details because its not as bad as you think!"
carrie: "no i dont want to hear details! you just need to fix my car!"
and then carrie hung up on me.
ok i'm sorry that her car got hit and we were in the car at the time and i can understand being upset about the situation, but come on, fix her car before we could talk to her again? what did she expect me to do? pound the hood down with a fucking hammer? she didn't even want to hear the details of what happened - if she had actually listened she would've realized it wasn't as bad as it sounded. and then telling us that we took her car without her permission?? i'm sorry, i thought asking her where her keys were and telling her that lisa was going to drive me home counted as asking her if we could take her car. normally in that situation if she didn't want us to drive her car, she could've said "oh lisa's going to drive you home? i dont want you guys driving my car". simple as that. we wouldn't have taken the car.
so i call my dad and tell him what happened and he's understanding and said it wasn't worth losing a friendship over and said that we would do our part to pay for damages if our car ended up being blamed for the accident (which we shouldn't be because it was the SUV's fault, but you never know how people are - a middle aged white man driving an SUV would totally be more credible than 2 college girls, especially since we were the car in the back). my dad called carrie's mom and talked to her and she wasn't upset, just glad that no one was injured, and agreed that telling someone where your keys were is giving them permission to use your car. after like an hour, i call carrie back and tell her "i'm so sorry, we didn't mean to get into an accident, we couldn't do anything about the guy backing up, we've been friends since freshman year and this isn't something worth losing a friendship over". carrie agreed and was like "yeah accidents happen and i know you guys didn't mean to get into one" etc etc. so we were ok and not mad at each other anymore. so then later in the day i'm talking to my dad again about what we should do and he was like "oh carrie just called her mom and told her what happened. she did end up telling her mom that you guys didn't have her permission to drive the car". i was "wtf?!" that is a BLATANT LIE. i knew she was gonna do that though, which is one of the reasons i talked to my parents right away. my parents know i wouldn't lie about something as important as this. and i'm sure the reason carrie was lying to her mom was because she didn't want to get in trouble for letting lisa drive her car. but still that's no reason to bad mouth me to her mom. like that's so disrespectful. i would never do that to her. i would never disrespect her by driving her car without her permission. last night when i stayed over at their apartment, i called her to ask her if it was alright if i slept in her bed because i knew she was gonna be gone for the night. that just shows how much respect i have for her, that i would take my time to call her instead of just passing out on her bed, because i know some people have issues with other people sleeping in their beds. i would never EVER disrespect her like that, especially to my parents or her parents, because i know how the respect of a friend's parent is so important. that's just totally not cool. i'm upset at her for doing that because i dont want her mom to think less of me, but i'm not going to bring it up with her because i know she'll just deny ever having told me where her keys were. and its not worth it to lose a friendship over something like that. but at the same time, if she brings it up again (which i know it will inevitably come up again, just like every other bit of drama with carrie does), and says that we took it without permission, i'm not going to just sit there and take her bad mouthing me because i feel bad about what happened. i'm going to stand up for myself because i know that i'm right and i have done everything i possibly could to try to take care of this situation so it would be less of a hassle for her and her parents.
*sigh* drama.
so i got my fake id taken away at a bar on friday night. what sucks even more is that it was a bar i've been to like 7 times. its so sad cause i've had my id since freshman year! its gone through college with me and has been responsible for countless numbers of wonderful drunken nights. *moment of silence for my id which is now in the pocket of some stupid Our House bouncer*
so after a night of partying and being molested by a sketchy guy and sleeping on a couch instead of a bed which was supposed to be my bed, and waking up incredibly hung over, the last thing i needed was to be involved in a car accident.
so its like 1 in the afternoon, lisa and i are completely sober and not hungover anymore, and i'm like "i should go home". lisa was like "call carrie and find where her keys are, and i'll drive you" so i'm like "awesome" and go call carrie (keep in mind that carrie and lisa drive each other's cars all the time).
conversation with carrie:
carrie: "hello?"
me: "hi! _____ (<-- some stuff about sheila's birthday here, talking to sheila and saying happy birthday, etc etc). Carrie, where are your keys 'cause lisa is gonna probably gonna drive me home later?"
carrie: "uh, i think martha might have them cause she was thinking of taking the car, or they could be in my room somewhere. make sure that i have a parking space though cause i dont want to have to park on the street" (they've been having issues with their parking lot and finding a spot)
me: "ok well we probably wont take it anyway cause we probably won't be able to find your keys"
carrie: "ok bye"
me: "bye"
literally that was almost word for word exactly what carrie and i said to each other. so lisa finds carrie's keys on the kitchen table and is like "oh yay i can drive you home". so we get in the car and turn down parker street by my building, and end up getting stopped behind a guy in a big ass SUV who's waiting to parallel park. so the guy pulls up past the spot, and lisa pulls up behind him, stopping completely. the guy starts to back up and lisa and i are like "oh shit!" lisa starts honking the horn but the guy was backing up too fast and ended up hitting the camry we were in, causing the hood of the car to be bent (no structural damage to the car though and it still ran just fine). so we get out, exchange the licence, registration, and insurance info with the guy and i'm like "ok we should call carrie and tell her". so i call her and this is our conversation:
carrie: "hello?"
me: "hi carrie, i'm really sorry but this guy backed up into us while he was trying to parallel park and -" (<-- that's me getting cut off by carrie's yelling)
carrie: "wait. so you guys got into an accident in my car?"
me: "yeah but its not that bad - "
carrie: "no. you guys got into an accident in my car, that you were driving without my permission!"
me: "carrie, you said we could take it and its not that bad because - "
carrie: "no! you just asked me where my keys were. you didn't say you were taking my car!"
me: "carrie! what did you think we were gonna do!?"
carrie: "no, you took my car without my permission and got into an accident!"
me: "carrie you shouldn't be that upset you need to listen to the details because its not as bad as you think!"
carrie: "no i dont want to hear details! you just need to fix my car!"
and then carrie hung up on me.
ok i'm sorry that her car got hit and we were in the car at the time and i can understand being upset about the situation, but come on, fix her car before we could talk to her again? what did she expect me to do? pound the hood down with a fucking hammer? she didn't even want to hear the details of what happened - if she had actually listened she would've realized it wasn't as bad as it sounded. and then telling us that we took her car without her permission?? i'm sorry, i thought asking her where her keys were and telling her that lisa was going to drive me home counted as asking her if we could take her car. normally in that situation if she didn't want us to drive her car, she could've said "oh lisa's going to drive you home? i dont want you guys driving my car". simple as that. we wouldn't have taken the car.
so i call my dad and tell him what happened and he's understanding and said it wasn't worth losing a friendship over and said that we would do our part to pay for damages if our car ended up being blamed for the accident (which we shouldn't be because it was the SUV's fault, but you never know how people are - a middle aged white man driving an SUV would totally be more credible than 2 college girls, especially since we were the car in the back). my dad called carrie's mom and talked to her and she wasn't upset, just glad that no one was injured, and agreed that telling someone where your keys were is giving them permission to use your car. after like an hour, i call carrie back and tell her "i'm so sorry, we didn't mean to get into an accident, we couldn't do anything about the guy backing up, we've been friends since freshman year and this isn't something worth losing a friendship over". carrie agreed and was like "yeah accidents happen and i know you guys didn't mean to get into one" etc etc. so we were ok and not mad at each other anymore. so then later in the day i'm talking to my dad again about what we should do and he was like "oh carrie just called her mom and told her what happened. she did end up telling her mom that you guys didn't have her permission to drive the car". i was "wtf?!" that is a BLATANT LIE. i knew she was gonna do that though, which is one of the reasons i talked to my parents right away. my parents know i wouldn't lie about something as important as this. and i'm sure the reason carrie was lying to her mom was because she didn't want to get in trouble for letting lisa drive her car. but still that's no reason to bad mouth me to her mom. like that's so disrespectful. i would never do that to her. i would never disrespect her by driving her car without her permission. last night when i stayed over at their apartment, i called her to ask her if it was alright if i slept in her bed because i knew she was gonna be gone for the night. that just shows how much respect i have for her, that i would take my time to call her instead of just passing out on her bed, because i know some people have issues with other people sleeping in their beds. i would never EVER disrespect her like that, especially to my parents or her parents, because i know how the respect of a friend's parent is so important. that's just totally not cool. i'm upset at her for doing that because i dont want her mom to think less of me, but i'm not going to bring it up with her because i know she'll just deny ever having told me where her keys were. and its not worth it to lose a friendship over something like that. but at the same time, if she brings it up again (which i know it will inevitably come up again, just like every other bit of drama with carrie does), and says that we took it without permission, i'm not going to just sit there and take her bad mouthing me because i feel bad about what happened. i'm going to stand up for myself because i know that i'm right and i have done everything i possibly could to try to take care of this situation so it would be less of a hassle for her and her parents.
*sigh* drama.