More family drama
Aww... Poor LJ. Seems like I use it to rant mostly. Maybe I should make sure to balance it at some point by posting the cool things that happen too!
To be honest, most of my days have been perfect. I've been happy and just enjoying life. It doesn't mean I don't have stress. I just try to cope, but I do have the stress of my thesis, the move, mum's sickness, the marriage, and the fact that thanks to the strike in the University of Puerto Rico I couldn't properly finish my Practicum before my move! Still, I've been good. ^^
Now, recently, my brother's girlfriend decided to bring more drama back to the family along with him. As if my mum needed this while being sick. I never kicked this girl out when she lived with me. If she decided to interpret things in her own crazy way, that's her problem. I know that when my sister asked me to place Emi and Ai's bicycles where they had been stored before, I replied that they had been stored in the room my brother's gf was using so I couldn't return them there. The girl is so silly that when she heard that, she went to cry to my brother saying that I was kicking her out to put the bicycles back in. Apparently, he still believes that to this day.
Anyway, with mum's sickness, she has no control of her legs and has to be on a wheelchair. Dad helps her with everything and he has given us instructions of not leaving hair clogging the drain in the shower.
Whenever my brother's gf washes her hair in my parents' house, she never cleans her hair and she sheds lots. The oldest of my brothers has been complaining of having to clean her hair and my father got upset. I have sometimes forgotten too when the girls have showered there, but when dad tells me, I go clean the hair and that's it. Now, when the other day Jiri was going to shower at parents', my father gave her the same reminder he gives all of us. She took it personally and replied that she was then not going to shower there and was going to "her" house. (Not sure what she means by her house as so far she has been a nomad, going from house to house, mine included, and apparently not lasting long. Funnily enough, she lasted the longest in my house, but I'll be very honest, I would never live with her again.)
My father told her that he didn't mean for her not to shower in his house, but she went into drama queen mode and my blind brother defended her. After that, I got into a sort of fight with them (my mistake, uggh!), defending my father and now I am a demon in front of their eyes. LOL Well, Jiri now doesn't enter my parents' house. She even deleted me from her Facebook (YES!!!!!!!!!!!) and whenever she comes to my parents' property, she runs upstairs to my dad's studio (where her boyfriend sleeps/has his room) and stays hidden there. My brother brings her food up there and my father says one of these days he wants to joke saying: "Ah, taking food for your pet up there?" XD
The nomad has had problems with her stepfather, cousins, aunts/uncles, brother, etc. She never solves conflicts. She runs away. She ran away from her original home when her stepfather wanted to establish curfew hours. She completely dislikes authority and that's why she clashes, especially with older relatives, though her cousins are same age and she fought with them too and even left the church she used to go to because of them.
After leaving my house, she lived with her sister and niece, but her sister left her and returned to live with her boyfriend. My brother couldn't pay the apartment the two sisters had been sharing anymore and to maike it worse, Jiri quit her full time job, thus putting a bigger strain on my brother's budget. She is currently living with an aunt, but apparently, she is having problems and is looking for a new relative to invade. Seems like her sister might have made an invite so now Jiri wants my brother to pay her a plane ticket to go live with her sister.
I am no seer, but since this girl lacks conflict solving skills and goes through life fighting relatives and boyfriend relatives and running away instead of trying to solve conflicts, I can somewhat predict what's going to happen. She will move in with her sister, she will have problems with her sister's boyfriend who will start to resent the invasion in his household and who who knows what else, and will go back to continue nomadic life by looking for what other house to invade. She might also ask my brother to pay her a place, but she is very scared of living by herself so not sure of that. (Though I wonder if the being scared thing is simply pressure/manipulation for my brother to propose and marry her. Who knows? We've seen certain behaviors in her that make us suspect that, but my brother needs things said to him directly. He doesn't get indirect stuff, even less the manipulative kind.)
What worries me though is that the plane ticket to move is not the only thing Jiri wants. She wants to enroll in graduate studies in a Uni close to where her sister lives. Seeing that she has all her family against her and all, I doubt they will help. In fact, it was my brother who finished paying her undergraduate studies and the Uni of PR is cheap. Still, that was hard for my brother. How the hell he will handle paying graduate studies for his gf plus meals, transportation, a place, etc. is beyond me. We will just have to leave my blind brother do as he wants and see how that goes.
To be honest, most of my days have been perfect. I've been happy and just enjoying life. It doesn't mean I don't have stress. I just try to cope, but I do have the stress of my thesis, the move, mum's sickness, the marriage, and the fact that thanks to the strike in the University of Puerto Rico I couldn't properly finish my Practicum before my move! Still, I've been good. ^^
Now, recently, my brother's girlfriend decided to bring more drama back to the family along with him. As if my mum needed this while being sick. I never kicked this girl out when she lived with me. If she decided to interpret things in her own crazy way, that's her problem. I know that when my sister asked me to place Emi and Ai's bicycles where they had been stored before, I replied that they had been stored in the room my brother's gf was using so I couldn't return them there. The girl is so silly that when she heard that, she went to cry to my brother saying that I was kicking her out to put the bicycles back in. Apparently, he still believes that to this day.
Anyway, with mum's sickness, she has no control of her legs and has to be on a wheelchair. Dad helps her with everything and he has given us instructions of not leaving hair clogging the drain in the shower.
Whenever my brother's gf washes her hair in my parents' house, she never cleans her hair and she sheds lots. The oldest of my brothers has been complaining of having to clean her hair and my father got upset. I have sometimes forgotten too when the girls have showered there, but when dad tells me, I go clean the hair and that's it. Now, when the other day Jiri was going to shower at parents', my father gave her the same reminder he gives all of us. She took it personally and replied that she was then not going to shower there and was going to "her" house. (Not sure what she means by her house as so far she has been a nomad, going from house to house, mine included, and apparently not lasting long. Funnily enough, she lasted the longest in my house, but I'll be very honest, I would never live with her again.)
My father told her that he didn't mean for her not to shower in his house, but she went into drama queen mode and my blind brother defended her. After that, I got into a sort of fight with them (my mistake, uggh!), defending my father and now I am a demon in front of their eyes. LOL Well, Jiri now doesn't enter my parents' house. She even deleted me from her Facebook (YES!!!!!!!!!!!) and whenever she comes to my parents' property, she runs upstairs to my dad's studio (where her boyfriend sleeps/has his room) and stays hidden there. My brother brings her food up there and my father says one of these days he wants to joke saying: "Ah, taking food for your pet up there?" XD
The nomad has had problems with her stepfather, cousins, aunts/uncles, brother, etc. She never solves conflicts. She runs away. She ran away from her original home when her stepfather wanted to establish curfew hours. She completely dislikes authority and that's why she clashes, especially with older relatives, though her cousins are same age and she fought with them too and even left the church she used to go to because of them.
After leaving my house, she lived with her sister and niece, but her sister left her and returned to live with her boyfriend. My brother couldn't pay the apartment the two sisters had been sharing anymore and to maike it worse, Jiri quit her full time job, thus putting a bigger strain on my brother's budget. She is currently living with an aunt, but apparently, she is having problems and is looking for a new relative to invade. Seems like her sister might have made an invite so now Jiri wants my brother to pay her a plane ticket to go live with her sister.
I am no seer, but since this girl lacks conflict solving skills and goes through life fighting relatives and boyfriend relatives and running away instead of trying to solve conflicts, I can somewhat predict what's going to happen. She will move in with her sister, she will have problems with her sister's boyfriend who will start to resent the invasion in his household and who who knows what else, and will go back to continue nomadic life by looking for what other house to invade. She might also ask my brother to pay her a place, but she is very scared of living by herself so not sure of that. (Though I wonder if the being scared thing is simply pressure/manipulation for my brother to propose and marry her. Who knows? We've seen certain behaviors in her that make us suspect that, but my brother needs things said to him directly. He doesn't get indirect stuff, even less the manipulative kind.)
What worries me though is that the plane ticket to move is not the only thing Jiri wants. She wants to enroll in graduate studies in a Uni close to where her sister lives. Seeing that she has all her family against her and all, I doubt they will help. In fact, it was my brother who finished paying her undergraduate studies and the Uni of PR is cheap. Still, that was hard for my brother. How the hell he will handle paying graduate studies for his gf plus meals, transportation, a place, etc. is beyond me. We will just have to leave my blind brother do as he wants and see how that goes.