Actually, this is not a blog of tests...

[nagarebhoshi]

I'm so sorry that my friend is having problems in her relationship. And I actually thought that it was going to last. I mean, the guy is a very good guy and I could see that he loved her. Or at least that's what he made us all think. What would you do if your boyfriend stood you up and then didn't call you for more than six days. I mean, she's

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[the_nick_is_ren]

Let me share my experience....
A few years ago, maybe 3, my best friend got into the same situation. She was in love and relationships with a guy she knew for like 10 years. They were good friends but then decided that going out is a good idea... She was madly in love with him, however we all told her to be careful because the boy has a psycho stage of narcissism. And then when they were to meet at 14th of February to go somewhere together. But he stood her up... and didn't call at all after this. She tried to reach him but it was all in vain. When she finally got to talk to his brother he told her that he left for his country house with his friends.
I needn't tell that she was depressed. She almost didn't want to live. And she was drunk all the time and depressed. Nothing interested her...
I'd suggest that you keep an eye (better 2) on your friend and not let her do anything stupid. Like it is ok if you let her cry this out for a week, but no more. After that you'll have to knock some sense back into her, after all if he is such a dork he doesn't worth this. Just be sure that she doesn't do anything stupid.
And about you feeling of guilt - it is not right, I think. You do everything you can for her. You want to help her out, but you can't step away from your everyday duty. After all as far as I know you'd feel guilt anyway... if you stay with your friend - you'll feel guilty because you didn't pay attention to your brother. And visa versa. So don't torture yourself with such thoughts and call your friend out tomorrow. She'll appreciate it and actually she'll still need some time to spend it alone. Talking with friends is good, but there is something that she needs to decide for herself.

I'm sorry, if this is a bit pushy. I'm in very responsible mood today.
Gambatte!!! *hugs*

[nagarebhoshi]

Thanx for all your thoughts. I was just worried about her. I think she is not the kind of person who would do stupid things after this relationship. I know she will be depressed (since it is normal), she will cry (again it is normal) and she will get over it in a while. It will take her a lot of time, but I know she's a very strong woman. The thing is that I'm kind of angry because, at least I thought, this guy was going to be good for her. In a way he was, but he hurt her deeply. I just want to help her. She needs company now. Thanx again Ren CHi!!! ^_^

PS: You're not pushy. You're just telling me what you think and I really appreciate it. *hugs back* ^_~