Little clarification...tagancaleraSeptember 21 2006, 13:36:45 UTC
I don't know you. I barely know fieryredhead. I don't have any reason to get in between the two of you on this and I'm suprised, based on the obvious content this was leading to, that I even chose to read this post.
But since I did read it I feel I need to point of a simple thing:
You stated -- "But any criticism that has explained and true points why the one criticizing thinks so is not unsolicited".
You are incorrect. Unsolicited means "unasked for". Regardless of the validity of whatever statements you made (something I am completely incapable of judging)...if she says that the criticism is unsolicited, it means she didn't ask for your opinion or critical input.
Also, because I had a gut feeling about the tone of the post and comments I went digging a little more so that I could ensure that the following statement from me is accurate (and yes, it is unsolicited...I know) --
You appear to be a very skilled seemstress and clothing reproducer. You obviously have a great deal of knowledge on the subject of fabrics and costuming in general. But the statements of others are correct. You lack tact and you are overly-critical. Its almost as if you feel you are in competition with the other costumers you are friends with. I think if you were to give some creative suggestions on improving things occasionally, and with a better choice of language and tone of writing, you might find that this was avoidable.
However, the fact you didn't know the proper context of a 9th grade literacy level word such as "unsolicited" may explain why you don't have the experiance with using the language elequantly in the forms of written communication. While you can be forgiven of this easily, few people are so skilled, I can understand why it would be annoying and angering from fireyredhead's point of view and why she would not want to deal with it anymore.
Rather than perpetuate the drama farther, you may BOTH wish to simply drop it and move on from one another's mutual lives and simply drop the stress you'll no doubt cause yourself.
But since I did read it I feel I need to point of a simple thing:
You stated -- "But any criticism that has explained and true points why the one criticizing thinks so is not unsolicited".
You are incorrect. Unsolicited means "unasked for". Regardless of the validity of whatever statements you made (something I am completely incapable of judging)...if she says that the criticism is unsolicited, it means she didn't ask for your opinion or critical input.
Also, because I had a gut feeling about the tone of the post and comments I went digging a little more so that I could ensure that the following statement from me is accurate (and yes, it is unsolicited...I know) --
You appear to be a very skilled seemstress and clothing reproducer. You obviously have a great deal of knowledge on the subject of fabrics and costuming in general. But the statements of others are correct. You lack tact and you are overly-critical. Its almost as if you feel you are in competition with the other costumers you are friends with. I think if you were to give some creative suggestions on improving things occasionally, and with a better choice of language and tone of writing, you might find that this was avoidable.
However, the fact you didn't know the proper context of a 9th grade literacy level word such as "unsolicited" may explain why you don't have the experiance with using the language elequantly in the forms of written communication. While you can be forgiven of this easily, few people are so skilled, I can understand why it would be annoying and angering from fireyredhead's point of view and why she would not want to deal with it anymore.
Rather than perpetuate the drama farther, you may BOTH wish to simply drop it and move on from one another's mutual lives and simply drop the stress you'll no doubt cause yourself.
Good Day.
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