Rant
I don't understand this new rule of having to invite family over for specific things during wedding time. It used to be an assumption that the house of whoever is getting married is always open to every relative at all times in desi culture. That's how it used to be at least. It's dumb that I have to actually invite people specifically for everything even though I've said again and again that I want everyone to feel free to come over to my house/for girls to be there when I'm getting ready/for everyone or anyone to spend the night at our place. I'm mostly appalled cause our house has always been the gathering place, why should we have to invite every individual of every family if my mom has spoken with everyone who has talked to her to just come over whenever they have free time.
I've never indicated a need for physical space during any time ever during my life, why would I need it now? I don't think of my wedding day even as a day for me to relax. So far I've been very relaxed in terms of all this wedding stuff/planning cause I've seriously done nothing except figure out stupid little things. I want to see everyone (and I literally mean every single family member, even the ones that don't like me or I don't get along with) as much as I can. I don't care what has happened between us or when it happened or how much you may hate me, I just want to have normal awkward interactions before I'm gone because I know that we all are capable of behaving as adults. I don't know when I'll be seeing people who don't live in TN after this, so I especially want them to feel free to talk to me cause I sure as hell want to talk to them. All of them.
I'm seriously disappointed that certain people act like strangers. They're so big on words and so little on action. It's also disappointing when certain people don't actually ask how/if they can help but then complain that they feel like they are not involved. I have no issues assigning tasks to people, I am not a control freak or a micromanager. You want to be kept busy? Come talk to me, my siblings, or my parents cause I know that the rest of my nuclear family could use a ton of help at the actual events.
In general, whether it's family or friends, this whole experience has taught me a lot about who really gives a crap and who doesn't. People who aren't afraid to ask directly or to give advice (even if it's unwanted) definitely have earned a lot more respect in my world. Even people who don't talk to me anymore, I can tell whether they give a damn and it's surprising that some of them actually do while others who sometimes act so sweet could actually care less. It's sad.
But aside from this mini-rant, there are a lot of positive things happening which I am grateful for. My youngest uncle is arranging for a dholki at his house on Sunday. It's usually a thing for females to do.. but then again, the men in our family are very feminine while the females aren't so much. But I guess that is the official start of the wedding festivities. I just can't believe time has been going by so fast. I wish things could slow down just a little.
I've never indicated a need for physical space during any time ever during my life, why would I need it now? I don't think of my wedding day even as a day for me to relax. So far I've been very relaxed in terms of all this wedding stuff/planning cause I've seriously done nothing except figure out stupid little things. I want to see everyone (and I literally mean every single family member, even the ones that don't like me or I don't get along with) as much as I can. I don't care what has happened between us or when it happened or how much you may hate me, I just want to have normal awkward interactions before I'm gone because I know that we all are capable of behaving as adults. I don't know when I'll be seeing people who don't live in TN after this, so I especially want them to feel free to talk to me cause I sure as hell want to talk to them. All of them.
I'm seriously disappointed that certain people act like strangers. They're so big on words and so little on action. It's also disappointing when certain people don't actually ask how/if they can help but then complain that they feel like they are not involved. I have no issues assigning tasks to people, I am not a control freak or a micromanager. You want to be kept busy? Come talk to me, my siblings, or my parents cause I know that the rest of my nuclear family could use a ton of help at the actual events.
In general, whether it's family or friends, this whole experience has taught me a lot about who really gives a crap and who doesn't. People who aren't afraid to ask directly or to give advice (even if it's unwanted) definitely have earned a lot more respect in my world. Even people who don't talk to me anymore, I can tell whether they give a damn and it's surprising that some of them actually do while others who sometimes act so sweet could actually care less. It's sad.
But aside from this mini-rant, there are a lot of positive things happening which I am grateful for. My youngest uncle is arranging for a dholki at his house on Sunday. It's usually a thing for females to do.. but then again, the men in our family are very feminine while the females aren't so much. But I guess that is the official start of the wedding festivities. I just can't believe time has been going by so fast. I wish things could slow down just a little.