So I've met someone and he's very sweet and good to me. But he doesn't want to move things too fast and we're not dating (he made that very clear). Still, we're enjoying our time together
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Hey, I'm probably the least qualified to give romantic advice but I'm gonna put in my 5 cents anyway...
In my opinion, your second to last sentence pretty much says it all. What else would be worth taking a chance on than putting your feelings on the line for someone you're falling for? And especially since, even though not dating, you're enjoying your time together.
It may work out, and it may not. If it works out, great! Then the "gamble" worked. If it doesn't...well, let me put it this way: we've known another for quite a few years now and if there's something I've learned about you during those years it's this: you're waaaay stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Yes, it will hurt if things don't work out the way you want them to but I KNOW you can go through that again if you need to.
Besides, and this may sound cold: what choice do you have? As far as I see it you have two choices: either you let the last hurt hold you back, or you can take a chance that things will be different this time around. One will only cause you misery, and the other can make you happy.
So my advice is: be happy for what you two have now, and take things slow. Time will tell if he will come around, or whether you will realize that he wasn't the guy for you.
I understand you're afraid. Hey, I've been there. But above all: you're a great friend and I only want what's best for you. But you will not find that if you let fear of possible future hurt and heartbreak keep you back.
In my opinion, your second to last sentence pretty much says it all. What else would be worth taking a chance on than putting your feelings on the line for someone you're falling for? And especially since, even though not dating, you're enjoying your time together.
It may work out, and it may not. If it works out, great! Then the "gamble" worked. If it doesn't...well, let me put it this way: we've known another for quite a few years now and if there's something I've learned about you during those years it's this: you're waaaay stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Yes, it will hurt if things don't work out the way you want them to but I KNOW you can go through that again if you need to.
Besides, and this may sound cold: what choice do you have? As far as I see it you have two choices: either you let the last hurt hold you back, or you can take a chance that things will be different this time around. One will only cause you misery, and the other can make you happy.
So my advice is: be happy for what you two have now, and take things slow. Time will tell if he will come around, or whether you will realize that he wasn't the guy for you.
I understand you're afraid. Hey, I've been there. But above all: you're a great friend and I only want what's best for you. But you will not find that if you let fear of possible future hurt and heartbreak keep you back.
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And thanks so much for your confidence in me though I hope I will not have to prove you right. 'hugs and kisses'
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