What is Polyamory to Me?

[nachtrabe]

Society has a long list of social taboos that we follow without even tending to notice in our daily lives. Some pages that talk about taboos give examples from cultures where spiritual cleansing is important, but seem to imply that it is something that "those other people do." In truth, the most important taboos are the ones imbedded in our own

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[firebeexlt]

I think it's interesting that you say "I can be"; I was recently in a conversation (actually, one about how open I care to be to various people about these very issues) where I described myself as "poly-compatible". Reason being: I have no reason to commit myself to one particular relationship model, but at the moment when I answer tons of questions regarding what I want and don't want in a relationship, the result is that I get a match list full of poly people. I figure this is what one might call a "hint".

It isn't exactly a shocking revelation that I'm strongly oriented towards introversion; for that reason, I'm fairly adamant about any potential partners having a means of support other than me. The alternative, as far as I can see, is a relationship where I end up burned-out and guilty and the other party ends up abandoned, angry, and seeing me as a defective and cruel person. I wants me none of this; in fact, I'd say that not finding a way around the cultural (global and local to me) expectations in this regard has been a major reason why I've been exceedingly conservative about pursuing relationships thus far.