Help out a friend?

[naamah_darling]

Hey, y'all? My friend snowcoma's dad just died, now she has to organize a cross-country funeral and trip and all of that, and cope with bills and that sort of thing, all on basically zero budget until the estate is cleared.

Kind of a tight spot for a friend to be in. I'm in no position to help, personally, but I am boosting the signal, and if y'all could

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[ashbet]

Your links aren't working (at least not on LJ), sweetie -- should be http://snowcoma.livejournal.com/337731.html :)

She's a friend of mine, too, and I sent something to help the other day, but I didn't have permission at the time to broadcast. I will pass this on, and will also ask if anyone on my FL has any experience organizing a VA funeral who might be able to give her some tips.

**huge hugs**

-- A <3

[naamah_darling]

Thank you! I fixed it.

I am worried for her, and hope that someone can help her out with that bit. That shit is hard.

[ashbet]

My mother may be a generally terrible person, but I am deeply grateful that she dealt with handling the arrangements for my Dad's funeral (it helped that they had made plans in advance, and had wills), so that all I had to do was show up.

I was absolutely *devastated* by his loss, and I couldn't even function enough to read the short eulogy I had written, because I was sobbing too hard -- my brother (who was a lot more serene, because he's a born-again Christian and his beliefs gave him a great deal of comfort at that time -- he believes that my Dad is in heaven and with Jesus, I am just grateful that he was released from his pain and the indignity and suffering of a slow death from brain cancer) had to read my piece on my behalf.

I certainly wouldn't have been in any shape to make funeral arrangements, and while I know snowcoma has a different set of circumstances to deal with, my heart absolutely goes out to her right now

[reedrover]

Wow. I'm so sorry for her. I have money right now from my [Navy] grandfather's recent death... It seems right, somehow, to help by passing it on to another veteran's family.

[ashbet]

That is really kind of you -- thank you <3

[jettcat]

Pitched some pennies at the fund and left a note in the message section about bereavement fares from the airlines.

[naamah_darling]

Yeah, she's looking into that, which I am so glad to hear! And thank you so much for helping. I am so fucking worried about her. :(

[txgecko]

Sorry to hear of your friend's loss. I did Paypal her some money and I hope she gets (at least some of) the help she needs.