Shitty Things People Say Part The Millionth

[naamah_darling]

This is just tremendously depressing to me. And this.

I don't understand why people think bullying is just part of life. Everyone experiences being pushed around, but the way we as a culture just accept this kind of thing to the point that children are committing suicide because of it . . . that's sick.

It's sick the way that the victims are

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[boobalah]

I am willing to bet anything, anything you care to name, that both of those children, and the others who have killed themselves this year alone, were each and every one told that sticks and stones might break their bones, but words could never hurt them. I am willing to bet my house that those children were repeatedly told to just ignore what was being done to them. At eleven. When we are all so incredibly capable of ignoring things like daily pain.

Of course they are; I was told that CONSTANTLY.

[manycolored]

Yes to all this.

I was bullied, but what affects me more *now* is I was taught to respond to it. Ignore it, turn the other cheek, try to feel sorry for them... To this day, I don't know how to stand up for myself. I'll remember too late that I was supposed to defend myself, or I'll overreact to what I imagine is coming, or I'll just overdo it, or I'll feel like I'm making an ass of myself so I stumble over my own intentions. Still, I keep trying. Damned if I'll live my whole life like I lived the first few decades of it!

[boobalah]

I was lucky that my parents got me out of there when I was 13. It still took until this year (at 20!) to stop walking around in public hunched over and looking at the ground and walking at the edges of the hallway.

[notorious_oit]

I still do that at 31. It really doesn't get any easier with time.

[hyaenid]

So much word.

I had "friends" who would jerk me around or only talk to me on certain days; it took years to really start trusting people with actual emotions. I still would rather smile and nod and quietly seethe than get confrontational because I'm still convinced my friends will arbitrarily decide to punish me.

[dawning_star]

Oh God, I struggle with standing up for myself even to this day. I endured a hostile work environment for over 2 years because I honestly didn't perceive that being treated horribly was wrong until another coworker pointed it out.

[briar_witch]

Yup, same here.