That is what my husband, his sister and I did all summer long, was go through all his dad's stuff, after he passed away last year during the holidays. He collected the most insane things. We found boxes upon boxes of x-ray film, slides, negatives, and even carpet samples from when Hermann hospital in the Texas Med Center was built. It was toughest on his mom, and she tried, but she kind of had to sit back and let her kids do it. It's just weird the things that remind you of stuff, and the shock of what do you do with all of it now that the person is gone? Is it like throwing them away to throw the stuff away?
I made up envelopes for each of my brothers and myself and as I went through my mother's stuff, I set aside the things that I thought would be important to them (or rather their wives/children), even though I haven't talked to two of my brothers in years. I didn't necessarily WANT to do that for them, in fact not at all, I just knew that my mother would have appreciated it and so I did. I wanted to rip up everything into teeny tiny pieces first and mail the lot to them :) specially the one brother that hadn't talked to his own mother in 25 years. Lots of touching memories going through her stuff, though. It gets easier every time I travel up there to continue it but I still keep finding stuff to hurt my heart.
Well, I haven't mailed the envelopes yet. AH-hahaha! It's my duty to do this I guess, being as I am the executrix but being as they rarely had contact with her, I could have just as easily burned the stuff in a hateful-sister pyre. heh heh. These ARE the two brothers that my last words to them were 'if you are walking down the road, you had better look behind you because I have every intention of making you a hood ornament'. I wonder how many times they thought of that when they walked down any road? Lucky for them I live in a different city :) Besides, I like my car too much to get brotherbloodnguts on it.
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*sigh*
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That's very expansive and kind of you. Your mother would, indeed, be pleased, I think, that you took the time to do it.
*hugs*
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