Awesome shit
He said:
We've all been there, right? You break up. Time goes by. Things get quiet, and then out of nowhere you get an innocent text message, e-mail, or phone call. Before you know it, "How's it going?" leads to "Sure, I can meet," which turns into "Why did I break up with him again?" and ends with the question "Should I try this again?" No, you shouldn't.
Exes are like old clothes in your closet. Sometimes they fit, sometimes they don't. They may be out of style. You may not like to wear them, or maybe you do, or maybe you just wear them once in a while. For whatever reason, though, you just cannot bear to throw them away. Just like the clothes you keep in your closet and no longer wear, there is a reason that your exes are just that.
In the end, settling for someone you have had before knowing full well that they are not the answer to your relationship needs does more harm than good because it reinforces that you cannot have or deserve what you want. Now, call me a romantic, but I think that everyone deserves to have an amazing, life-altering, loving, and passionate relationship. Do we all get one? No, but if we do not have the will to try, how will we ever know if we can?
There are two kinds of exes you're tempted to try again with. There's the short two-monther romance that barely had time to get off the ground before bad timing and the like intervened. And then there's the one that made you swear you would never love again and get a third cat.
The caveat is that people don't change.
They do, of course, but not when and how you want them to. The chronic cheater you dumped may very well mature into the monogamous man of your dreams ... but his moral makeover won't happen five weeks after the breakup when you're considering getting back together with him. I don't believe that once a cheater, always a cheater, but I do believe that "once a cheater, next month a cheater."
Pining for a toxic ex is like craving drive-through junk food. They're right there and exactly what you want at the moment, but you'll regret it in the morning. It too shall pass, so let it.
We've all been there, right? You break up. Time goes by. Things get quiet, and then out of nowhere you get an innocent text message, e-mail, or phone call. Before you know it, "How's it going?" leads to "Sure, I can meet," which turns into "Why did I break up with him again?" and ends with the question "Should I try this again?" No, you shouldn't.
Exes are like old clothes in your closet. Sometimes they fit, sometimes they don't. They may be out of style. You may not like to wear them, or maybe you do, or maybe you just wear them once in a while. For whatever reason, though, you just cannot bear to throw them away. Just like the clothes you keep in your closet and no longer wear, there is a reason that your exes are just that.
In the end, settling for someone you have had before knowing full well that they are not the answer to your relationship needs does more harm than good because it reinforces that you cannot have or deserve what you want. Now, call me a romantic, but I think that everyone deserves to have an amazing, life-altering, loving, and passionate relationship. Do we all get one? No, but if we do not have the will to try, how will we ever know if we can?
There are two kinds of exes you're tempted to try again with. There's the short two-monther romance that barely had time to get off the ground before bad timing and the like intervened. And then there's the one that made you swear you would never love again and get a third cat.
The caveat is that people don't change.
They do, of course, but not when and how you want them to. The chronic cheater you dumped may very well mature into the monogamous man of your dreams ... but his moral makeover won't happen five weeks after the breakup when you're considering getting back together with him. I don't believe that once a cheater, always a cheater, but I do believe that "once a cheater, next month a cheater."
Pining for a toxic ex is like craving drive-through junk food. They're right there and exactly what you want at the moment, but you'll regret it in the morning. It too shall pass, so let it.