relationship jibber jabber
well, first off...before relationships...i just want to share how sneezing is bad for your health. i'm *SO* for serious! i sneezed earlier today and it made me throw my neck'n'back out! can you believe it?! i'm in MADDASS pain. :-( it sucks big fat bum.
anyway! something about relationships struck a chord for me today. not about mine, to be honest. just generalizing.
i read a comment from someone on myspace who believes that love is all it takes to make a relationship work...granted this is in the eyes of a 19 year old girl...i think it's bullshit.
i'm concerned about a few relationships right now that are blindsighted by so-called "love"...i won't get into details, but fuck!
before giving of onesself to another...i believe there must be a sense of self first and foremost! know how to carry yourself with dignity, control, self-discipline...before you drown yourself into a faux euphoria which, face it, will take you on such a rocky-ass roller coaster your head will spin and you will PUKE *much more* than you have butterflies in your stomach!
it may sound so pessimistic, but i'm trying to come off as being cautious.
currently in my relationship, i have no reason to be, but i still am because throughout the relationship...i am not with him 24 hours 7 days a week...there are times when i will have to stand on my own throughout the days, weeks, if not months...i need to know i will be able to stand on my own w/o him. if i can't!? that's straight up dependency; a sign of weakness and insecurity. why portray yourself like that?!
show your desireable(sp) self at all costs. be at your best-not in consistent inferiority where you end up choosing to let your heart be stepped on. life's too short to cross your fingers and wait for miracles. there must be stability...balance with yourself. from there you can build the healthy relationship you deserve.
if you believe it's all on love...well, fuck! fine...but what are the elements of love? what makes you love that person? components of trust, loyalty, faithfulness, encouragement, respect...if any of these things are lacking AND more....then hell! what kind of love do you have!? cheap chocolate kind of love? i'm sorry, but give me diamonds!
i'm done :-P
anyway! something about relationships struck a chord for me today. not about mine, to be honest. just generalizing.
i read a comment from someone on myspace who believes that love is all it takes to make a relationship work...granted this is in the eyes of a 19 year old girl...i think it's bullshit.
i'm concerned about a few relationships right now that are blindsighted by so-called "love"...i won't get into details, but fuck!
before giving of onesself to another...i believe there must be a sense of self first and foremost! know how to carry yourself with dignity, control, self-discipline...before you drown yourself into a faux euphoria which, face it, will take you on such a rocky-ass roller coaster your head will spin and you will PUKE *much more* than you have butterflies in your stomach!
it may sound so pessimistic, but i'm trying to come off as being cautious.
currently in my relationship, i have no reason to be, but i still am because throughout the relationship...i am not with him 24 hours 7 days a week...there are times when i will have to stand on my own throughout the days, weeks, if not months...i need to know i will be able to stand on my own w/o him. if i can't!? that's straight up dependency; a sign of weakness and insecurity. why portray yourself like that?!
show your desireable(sp) self at all costs. be at your best-not in consistent inferiority where you end up choosing to let your heart be stepped on. life's too short to cross your fingers and wait for miracles. there must be stability...balance with yourself. from there you can build the healthy relationship you deserve.
if you believe it's all on love...well, fuck! fine...but what are the elements of love? what makes you love that person? components of trust, loyalty, faithfulness, encouragement, respect...if any of these things are lacking AND more....then hell! what kind of love do you have!? cheap chocolate kind of love? i'm sorry, but give me diamonds!
i'm done :-P