Hoo boy. Pull up a chair and I'll tell you a tale...
I usually disable comments whenever I talk in-depth about my husband's health issues. I was still in college when he was diagnosed, and at the time my only LJ friends were also my RL college friends. There was some drama, off and on, wherein someone would use their LJ to vent about whatever was going on in their life, and would then get accused, both IRL and in comments, of emo attention-whoring. The overall atmosphere at times was that anyone who posted anything remotely personal was trolling for emotional validation via comments. (Though to be fair, sometimes I shared this opinion re: some posts that were made, both by my friends and then later in hindsight, concerning a few of my own. It's why I have a "holy emo batman!" tag, because LJ developed tagging after I'd "grown up a bit," as it were, and deleting my prior ridiculousness would remove the object lesson.)
Over time I stopped using my LJ as an actual journal, and kept it more for what it says now in my profile, but seeing as most of my LJ friends are still my RL friends, they get grumpy when I disappear off the face of the internets for long periods -- with the exception of the occasional meme -- and they do worry about me and my husband besides, given our situation. So whenever I figure that its time for another PSA about The State Of Our Lives, I run into this knee-jerk hesitation left over from the earlier drama wars, and that plus the fact that there is actual psychology behind the accusations (when people hear that Bad Things have happened to their friends, its generally within their nature to want to reach out to them, but it's ALSO within their nature to run into the roadblock of not knowing what to say, and part of me also feels that its a bit of a kindness to relieve them of the burden of feeling they should respond) I figure its easier all around to disable the comment feature.
Oh I failed NaNo horribly my first year, and I'm actually rather surprised I'm doing so will this time around. I blame it on the fact that the story I'm working on has taken shape in a series of isolated, delineated scenes, roughly 800-3000 words each, and so far I've basically been able to bang out one complete scene a day. Someone that strikes as less daunting whenever I sit down to write it. And because it's you, I'm going to confess that this is the House/SG1/SGA crossover that ambushed me out of fucking nowhere WTF!
Wow. Jeebus. It's never been like that for me because most of my RL friends don't use LJ, so LJ is how I connect with all those people that i met. Did you friends accuse each other of being drama whores? or was it anonymous comments? And hey. You know...LJ is a type of a journal, so emo-ing is allowed.
hahaha! House/ SG1/SGA! I'd love to see that,except I might get confused if there's SG1 references.
Oh the accusations were both public and private. Sometimes it got ugly.
Well it's more of a conceptual crossover, really. It's the "Chase gets recruited by the IOA and sent to Atlantis post Human Error" story, only its from the PPTH side of things as House tries to diagnose where the heck his duckling ran off to. Stargate cover stories are always crap :-)
I usually disable comments whenever I talk in-depth about my husband's health issues. I was still in college when he was diagnosed, and at the time my only LJ friends were also my RL college friends. There was some drama, off and on, wherein someone would use their LJ to vent about whatever was going on in their life, and would then get accused, both IRL and in comments, of emo attention-whoring. The overall atmosphere at times was that anyone who posted anything remotely personal was trolling for emotional validation via comments. (Though to be fair, sometimes I shared this opinion re: some posts that were made, both by my friends and then later in hindsight, concerning a few of my own. It's why I have a "holy emo batman!" tag, because LJ developed tagging after I'd "grown up a bit," as it were, and deleting my prior ridiculousness would remove the object lesson.)
Over time I stopped using my LJ as an actual journal, and kept it more for what it says now in my profile, but seeing as most of my LJ friends are still my RL friends, they get grumpy when I disappear off the face of the internets for long periods -- with the exception of the occasional meme -- and they do worry about me and my husband besides, given our situation. So whenever I figure that its time for another PSA about The State Of Our Lives, I run into this knee-jerk hesitation left over from the earlier drama wars, and that plus the fact that there is actual psychology behind the accusations (when people hear that Bad Things have happened to their friends, its generally within their nature to want to reach out to them, but it's ALSO within their nature to run into the roadblock of not knowing what to say, and part of me also feels that its a bit of a kindness to relieve them of the burden of feeling they should respond) I figure its easier all around to disable the comment feature.
Oh I failed NaNo horribly my first year, and I'm actually rather surprised I'm doing so will this time around. I blame it on the fact that the story I'm working on has taken shape in a series of isolated, delineated scenes, roughly 800-3000 words each, and so far I've basically been able to bang out one complete scene a day. Someone that strikes as less daunting whenever I sit down to write it. And because it's you, I'm going to confess that this is the House/SG1/SGA crossover that ambushed me out of fucking nowhere WTF!
And yeah, sometimes I really love my family :-)
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It's never been like that for me because most of my RL friends don't use LJ, so LJ is how I connect with all those people that i met.
Did you friends accuse each other of being drama whores? or was it anonymous comments?
And hey. You know...LJ is a type of a journal, so emo-ing is allowed.
hahaha! House/ SG1/SGA! I'd love to see that,except I might get confused if there's SG1 references.
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Well it's more of a conceptual crossover, really. It's the "Chase gets recruited by the IOA and sent to Atlantis post Human Error" story, only its from the PPTH side of things as House tries to diagnose where the heck his duckling ran off to. Stargate cover stories are always crap :-)
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