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So both of my sisters are pissed at me and I really have no idea why. or maybe I do.. Here's the skinny from my perspective.
All I was told was that it was something about my not doing enough to help my grandpa, but i'm the one who fucking lives there and deals with the fact that grandma isn't there and WON'T be there EVER AGAIN; watches football with him when i have no want or desire to do so, makes sure he has clean clothes, stays up with him all hours of the night, and makes sure he's at least eating a couple of times a day! all the while trying to calm him when grief gets to be too much. or when he gets hospital bills for $111 thousand dollars and thinks his life is over and that he has to sell our house. (true story) but they cleaned a little and put up some xmas decor without me. My heroes!
Oh and remember this is on top of my going to graduate school half-time and working the world's most fucked up full-time schedule... 2 afternoon shifts, 2 night shifts, and most of the time one morning shift EVERY week!
I think it really has something to do with Heath being there and unemployed, but he really can't help it the company he worked for went out of business. He was working BY HIMSELF 10-12 hours a day in a dirty, hot kitchen for months. He worked one day, the next was Thanksgiving-- they were supposed to open again on Saturday after Thanksgiving and BOOM! A "for lease" sign is posted in the window and Heath is unemployed! He's putting in apps at different places (that aren't food related as resturants around here are rife with Opiate addicts and he's trying to steer clear of temptation) and is trying to get back into school In the meantime, he cooks for Grandpa every day. He brings me back and forth to work, keeps G-pa company when I'm working, when need be. Drives me an hour and ten minutes away to school and sits in the parking lot for 3 hours whilst I'm being educated and is *still* fighting the good fight when it comes to staying OFF the opiates.
He's not perfect, by any stretch. But who is? Especially in this hole in the world? he tries.
[Someone] seems to be forgetting that she's not doing much of anything right now either but worrying about the absence of a integral part of her life/person in her life. One would think She'd understand that sometimes it gets to be almost too much to bear-- so one can't be as productive as someone might think they should be when dealing with said absence and that you just have to do what you have to do in the meantime... the difference being [HER HUSBAND] is living, breathing, and can call home nearly every day. Sure his situation sucks dirty donkey dick but He'll be home soon. I can't talk to Grandma, Grandpa can't talk to G-ma, Heath can't talk to G-ma-- She won't be home. ever again. but we're trying to continue to live life as best *we* can Oh but BTW there's no "in the meantime" in our version of this narrative. Yes, you guys miss her too, but we live there and she held *us* together.
They seem to be griping about the Heath/no money issue too. I think it's funny coming from [SOMEONE ELSE] whom lived in our uncle's house with a boy who shall remain nameless, who's only aspiration in life seemed to be to dress up in civil war garb every weekend and live with his mom forever. Oh that and to try to scheme and sue JC Penneys out of a million or so-- by sitting on a tack, which supposedly (but didn't!) came out of a pair of pants he was trying on, and puncturing his scrotum with it. a scheme which FAILED by the way. He had a sore, infected nutsack for NOTHING. But did I give her a hard time about HIS failings? NOPE. They borrowed money to go to prom on too. Which SHE paid back when hard times were over just as I will once I'm out of grad school and have a real job.
and also her most recent boyfriend borrowed money from g-pa and took forever to pay it back, if he even has... but that's none of *my* business. So what was her beef with me again? Our burrowing money from Gpa? or is it the fact that Heath can't help me with money issues right now? The aforementioned most recent boyfriend also lives in her house, owes her all sorts of money, and according to her spends all his money unwisely, whilst she takes care of EVERYTHING! Sound familiar? The only difference is she's got a better job than I do and still has a savings! but she's had hard times too. maybe that's why she feels the need to comment on mine? or maybe she's just forgotten about those parts of her life?
Oh and if Grandpa wants to let [Heath's ma and pa] live in his other house and won't take rent money from them, but they're paying their bills unlike other people whom lived there for a gazillion years rent free with grandpa making sure they had lights and water-- that's NOBODY's business but his. He has the right to tell them to leave whenever he so chooses, Heath and I let them talk it all over amongst themselves. We try and stay out of it. and maybe other people should too?
I love these girls, but FUCK they need to reflect on their own lives and experiences before coming down on me for mine, because we've all gone through or are going through a bunch of the same shit-- but somehow Me and Mine are the only one's getting bad mouthed for it.
All I was told was that it was something about my not doing enough to help my grandpa, but i'm the one who fucking lives there and deals with the fact that grandma isn't there and WON'T be there EVER AGAIN; watches football with him when i have no want or desire to do so, makes sure he has clean clothes, stays up with him all hours of the night, and makes sure he's at least eating a couple of times a day! all the while trying to calm him when grief gets to be too much. or when he gets hospital bills for $111 thousand dollars and thinks his life is over and that he has to sell our house. (true story) but they cleaned a little and put up some xmas decor without me. My heroes!
Oh and remember this is on top of my going to graduate school half-time and working the world's most fucked up full-time schedule... 2 afternoon shifts, 2 night shifts, and most of the time one morning shift EVERY week!
I think it really has something to do with Heath being there and unemployed, but he really can't help it the company he worked for went out of business. He was working BY HIMSELF 10-12 hours a day in a dirty, hot kitchen for months. He worked one day, the next was Thanksgiving-- they were supposed to open again on Saturday after Thanksgiving and BOOM! A "for lease" sign is posted in the window and Heath is unemployed! He's putting in apps at different places (that aren't food related as resturants around here are rife with Opiate addicts and he's trying to steer clear of temptation) and is trying to get back into school In the meantime, he cooks for Grandpa every day. He brings me back and forth to work, keeps G-pa company when I'm working, when need be. Drives me an hour and ten minutes away to school and sits in the parking lot for 3 hours whilst I'm being educated and is *still* fighting the good fight when it comes to staying OFF the opiates.
He's not perfect, by any stretch. But who is? Especially in this hole in the world? he tries.
[Someone] seems to be forgetting that she's not doing much of anything right now either but worrying about the absence of a integral part of her life/person in her life. One would think She'd understand that sometimes it gets to be almost too much to bear-- so one can't be as productive as someone might think they should be when dealing with said absence and that you just have to do what you have to do in the meantime... the difference being [HER HUSBAND] is living, breathing, and can call home nearly every day. Sure his situation sucks dirty donkey dick but He'll be home soon. I can't talk to Grandma, Grandpa can't talk to G-ma, Heath can't talk to G-ma-- She won't be home. ever again. but we're trying to continue to live life as best *we* can Oh but BTW there's no "in the meantime" in our version of this narrative. Yes, you guys miss her too, but we live there and she held *us* together.
They seem to be griping about the Heath/no money issue too. I think it's funny coming from [SOMEONE ELSE] whom lived in our uncle's house with a boy who shall remain nameless, who's only aspiration in life seemed to be to dress up in civil war garb every weekend and live with his mom forever. Oh that and to try to scheme and sue JC Penneys out of a million or so-- by sitting on a tack, which supposedly (but didn't!) came out of a pair of pants he was trying on, and puncturing his scrotum with it. a scheme which FAILED by the way. He had a sore, infected nutsack for NOTHING. But did I give her a hard time about HIS failings? NOPE. They borrowed money to go to prom on too. Which SHE paid back when hard times were over just as I will once I'm out of grad school and have a real job.
and also her most recent boyfriend borrowed money from g-pa and took forever to pay it back, if he even has... but that's none of *my* business. So what was her beef with me again? Our burrowing money from Gpa? or is it the fact that Heath can't help me with money issues right now? The aforementioned most recent boyfriend also lives in her house, owes her all sorts of money, and according to her spends all his money unwisely, whilst she takes care of EVERYTHING! Sound familiar? The only difference is she's got a better job than I do and still has a savings! but she's had hard times too. maybe that's why she feels the need to comment on mine? or maybe she's just forgotten about those parts of her life?
Oh and if Grandpa wants to let [Heath's ma and pa] live in his other house and won't take rent money from them, but they're paying their bills unlike other people whom lived there for a gazillion years rent free with grandpa making sure they had lights and water-- that's NOBODY's business but his. He has the right to tell them to leave whenever he so chooses, Heath and I let them talk it all over amongst themselves. We try and stay out of it. and maybe other people should too?
I love these girls, but FUCK they need to reflect on their own lives and experiences before coming down on me for mine, because we've all gone through or are going through a bunch of the same shit-- but somehow Me and Mine are the only one's getting bad mouthed for it.