Commitment
I do.
It's a small sentence with small words. Five characters long, if you put it into a Word document, it only takes up 4.5 kilobytes. This is the shortest sentence in the english language other than "I am.". This tiny statement of small words and small measure can be the most powerful and most important thing you will ever say. Before you say it, you have to mean it. And I mean really mean it. You have to understand that your "I do" is not contingent on how loosely you take the terms "for better or for worse". Particularly the last part, "worse". How bad is worse? Technically speaking, worse is any state or condition that is not equal to or better than the one you are in, but it can mean more. Worse than you expected. Worse than you could've imagined. Worse than you can manage. In short, worse is bad, and you'll never know how bad it is till it hits you. Now that I've said that, here comes the hard part...
Look at the person you're with. What would you do for them? What could you do for them? How far does your love for them stretch? Before you say "I do" you need to think very carefully about what you can go through. It's not a question of wanting to be with someone, it's a question of what you will go through to be with them. Could you feed them and clothe them if they are unable? Would you carry them if their legs no longer worked? Would you watch them cry? Would you cry for them? What if they're mind started slipping? What if they no longer recognized you, the person the said they loved? Could you still tell them you loved them? Could you still love them as they intentionally drink themselves into a stupor? Could you remain faithful to them if they were uconsious in a coma? I know it's a little harsh to throw it all out there like that. It's highly unlikely that you would have all of that happen, but it's entirely possibe for even one of them to happen. And that one could be plenty effective in testing the limits of your love.
I've covered the big stuff. Now, what about the smaller stuff? You're going to be sharing your lives together and living together. The simple fact is, you are going to get on each others' nerves. You also have to keep that in mind. You can think you're prepared to live together and be completely wrong. Being wrong is easy, but you have to be able to work through that. Ultimately I'm all for marriage. It's a beautiful thing, when done right. Just remember the consequences before you enter into it. Know that you're getting into. And remember one final thing. Till death do you part. There are two of you. One of you could very well pass before the other. And there's a 50% chance that one of them ain't you...
It's a small sentence with small words. Five characters long, if you put it into a Word document, it only takes up 4.5 kilobytes. This is the shortest sentence in the english language other than "I am.". This tiny statement of small words and small measure can be the most powerful and most important thing you will ever say. Before you say it, you have to mean it. And I mean really mean it. You have to understand that your "I do" is not contingent on how loosely you take the terms "for better or for worse". Particularly the last part, "worse". How bad is worse? Technically speaking, worse is any state or condition that is not equal to or better than the one you are in, but it can mean more. Worse than you expected. Worse than you could've imagined. Worse than you can manage. In short, worse is bad, and you'll never know how bad it is till it hits you. Now that I've said that, here comes the hard part...
Look at the person you're with. What would you do for them? What could you do for them? How far does your love for them stretch? Before you say "I do" you need to think very carefully about what you can go through. It's not a question of wanting to be with someone, it's a question of what you will go through to be with them. Could you feed them and clothe them if they are unable? Would you carry them if their legs no longer worked? Would you watch them cry? Would you cry for them? What if they're mind started slipping? What if they no longer recognized you, the person the said they loved? Could you still tell them you loved them? Could you still love them as they intentionally drink themselves into a stupor? Could you remain faithful to them if they were uconsious in a coma? I know it's a little harsh to throw it all out there like that. It's highly unlikely that you would have all of that happen, but it's entirely possibe for even one of them to happen. And that one could be plenty effective in testing the limits of your love.
I've covered the big stuff. Now, what about the smaller stuff? You're going to be sharing your lives together and living together. The simple fact is, you are going to get on each others' nerves. You also have to keep that in mind. You can think you're prepared to live together and be completely wrong. Being wrong is easy, but you have to be able to work through that. Ultimately I'm all for marriage. It's a beautiful thing, when done right. Just remember the consequences before you enter into it. Know that you're getting into. And remember one final thing. Till death do you part. There are two of you. One of you could very well pass before the other. And there's a 50% chance that one of them ain't you...