ok another lesson for the relationship challenged
ok so first of all...when you like a guy and you like him and he seems to like you...or vis versa for boys....them coming up to you at a party and being like...wanna make out...or just touching you and coming on to you and then like trying to have sex with you...that's BAD and that guy is typically a loser, so he's probably not the kind of person you want to GO OUT with. A guy who genuinlly wants to LOVE you will most likely act stupid to impress you...be nervous...make an EFFORT and do things that bring him CLOSER to you.... take little steps like holding your hand (sometimes not if they are very experienced and over confident), THEY WILL PROBABLY want to be ALONE with you and take you out on a DATE!.
If there are qualitites in a guy that you see on the first date or when you first meet him that you do not like...if he acts like an asshole...don't just go into it thinking you can CHANGE him. The first thing is that you like them the way they are...not the way they will be come after you manipulate them. MANIPULATION does NOT provide a healthy relationship.
If AFTER you have dated someone a couple times...and started what seems to be a relationship...don't be AFRAID to communicate...find out if you feel mutual about the relationship...are your intentions the same...do you agree that you want to COMMIT and be exclusively dating eachother and no one else...if you disagree on any of these subjects especially commitment it will NOT work.
If you are in a long term relationship...your signifigant other is the ONLY other person for you...if you are attracted to someone else other than a celebrity...do not tell the other person...DO NOT show interest in your partners close freinds...be nice to them if they don't like you don't try to win them over it won't work...DO NOT say remotely suggestive things towards your partners close freinds...even if you're just trying to commpliment them. DON'T ever tell your partners close freinds not to tell your partner something...because that implies you are trying to keep something from your partner and their close freind WILL TELL THEM because they DESERVE TO KNOW. If you find out your partner has done the previous TAKE THE HINT that perhaps this relationship isn't what you want it to be.
DO NOT pretend things to your self...when you are not being treated right and your freinds tell you you're not...LISTEN TO THEM...they see your relationship from an objective stance so they are not emmersed in the emotion and tend to be more REASONABLE. IF you see another relationship that seems different and more HEALTHY...THINK ABOUT IT. maybe your relationship is not what it should be.
IF YOU DO NOT CONTINUE GOING ON DATES and doing ACTIVITIES together THAT IS NOT GOOD. Make an effort to actually do things as a couple.
IF you partner is always causing emotional drama...they should not be. There are some people in this world who make drama for themselves and others because they think life is supposed to be like a movie (movies have an introduction, a rising action, a climax, a falling action, and a conclusion...life may be like that a little bit...but all that does not happen in the course of a year or a week or w/e) Some people thrive on drama, they have a problem and they probably are doing it subconciously ...BUT if they're is a lot of drama especially in a relationship that is causing you stress and emotional problems...RECOGNIZE THIS and realize that you may not want to be with what i like to call a "drama vampire."
DO NOT PERPETUATE A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MAKING YOU FEEL SHITTY. WHEN YOU FEEL AS THOUGH YOUR S/O DOES NOT FEEL MUTUAL IN THE RELATIONSHIP OR TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU FEEL YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED THINK ABOUT IT because it may be better for you BOTH if you do not continue an unhealthy relationship.
If there are qualitites in a guy that you see on the first date or when you first meet him that you do not like...if he acts like an asshole...don't just go into it thinking you can CHANGE him. The first thing is that you like them the way they are...not the way they will be come after you manipulate them. MANIPULATION does NOT provide a healthy relationship.
If AFTER you have dated someone a couple times...and started what seems to be a relationship...don't be AFRAID to communicate...find out if you feel mutual about the relationship...are your intentions the same...do you agree that you want to COMMIT and be exclusively dating eachother and no one else...if you disagree on any of these subjects especially commitment it will NOT work.
If you are in a long term relationship...your signifigant other is the ONLY other person for you...if you are attracted to someone else other than a celebrity...do not tell the other person...DO NOT show interest in your partners close freinds...be nice to them if they don't like you don't try to win them over it won't work...DO NOT say remotely suggestive things towards your partners close freinds...even if you're just trying to commpliment them. DON'T ever tell your partners close freinds not to tell your partner something...because that implies you are trying to keep something from your partner and their close freind WILL TELL THEM because they DESERVE TO KNOW. If you find out your partner has done the previous TAKE THE HINT that perhaps this relationship isn't what you want it to be.
DO NOT pretend things to your self...when you are not being treated right and your freinds tell you you're not...LISTEN TO THEM...they see your relationship from an objective stance so they are not emmersed in the emotion and tend to be more REASONABLE. IF you see another relationship that seems different and more HEALTHY...THINK ABOUT IT. maybe your relationship is not what it should be.
IF YOU DO NOT CONTINUE GOING ON DATES and doing ACTIVITIES together THAT IS NOT GOOD. Make an effort to actually do things as a couple.
IF you partner is always causing emotional drama...they should not be. There are some people in this world who make drama for themselves and others because they think life is supposed to be like a movie (movies have an introduction, a rising action, a climax, a falling action, and a conclusion...life may be like that a little bit...but all that does not happen in the course of a year or a week or w/e) Some people thrive on drama, they have a problem and they probably are doing it subconciously ...BUT if they're is a lot of drama especially in a relationship that is causing you stress and emotional problems...RECOGNIZE THIS and realize that you may not want to be with what i like to call a "drama vampire."
DO NOT PERPETUATE A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MAKING YOU FEEL SHITTY. WHEN YOU FEEL AS THOUGH YOUR S/O DOES NOT FEEL MUTUAL IN THE RELATIONSHIP OR TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU FEEL YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED THINK ABOUT IT because it may be better for you BOTH if you do not continue an unhealthy relationship.