of all else, I'm letting go
I told him how a month ago over Skype just how much his words hurt me. How it seemed to me that our relationship was so wispy that it could be let go of at the slightest hint of her. Like I was a taste of chocolate that he decided wasn't worth biting the other half.
What surprised me was that he didn't know. He didn't know the severity of his words' effect and it was like a sorry without the five letters, which makes me wonder if there was an apology too. I expected words of affirmation, but he thought I was secure enough to find them on my own. I felt sadly overestimated.
I wish I were secure enough to see my strengths without having them told to me.
It's interesting how you can learn so much about yourself in a relationship. And a lot of the things you learn seems to be the ones that you aren't told. They just know how to expose them haha.
- From a friend's blog
Ah. This is so relatable.
They just know how to expose them.
Oh, the truth in those words. Relationships bring out the best, and also the worst in us. That's why they're so much work - why they're so hard. We learn things about ourselves, about them, about people, that we begin to see the things underneath the surface that might have even been there all along, but took someone digging deeper into us to find out.
Even this post-relationship phase has been rocky. I've been learning about myself and seeing things - toxic things - that were in my dating relationship that I hadn't seen while I was in it. It's enlightening and it's changing the way I look at and think about aspects of relationships to hold onto for next time.
The learning process is forever. There will always be more to learn.
Eyes open, chin up. I wish I were secure enough to see my strengths without having them told to me. Ah yes, but that is our nature, isn't it? The weaknesses are the obvious ones; our failures splayed like blood stains on a white backdrop... but that's where God prompts us: look to Me. Let me show you who you are. Let me reveal Myself because you have been made in My image. The more you encounter My glory, the more I will reveal yours.
Isn't it true, though? Because in our weaknesses, that's when He is strong; in our strengths, He is glorified. We are living, walking, breathing souls of glory for Him - He is always our strength; when we feel it and when we don't; when we fail and when we praise His name.
You are more than you know. You are more than your relationship with your significant other. You are more than just a conqueror. You are so much more than you know.
What surprised me was that he didn't know. He didn't know the severity of his words' effect and it was like a sorry without the five letters, which makes me wonder if there was an apology too. I expected words of affirmation, but he thought I was secure enough to find them on my own. I felt sadly overestimated.
I wish I were secure enough to see my strengths without having them told to me.
It's interesting how you can learn so much about yourself in a relationship. And a lot of the things you learn seems to be the ones that you aren't told. They just know how to expose them haha.
- From a friend's blog
Ah. This is so relatable.
They just know how to expose them.
Oh, the truth in those words. Relationships bring out the best, and also the worst in us. That's why they're so much work - why they're so hard. We learn things about ourselves, about them, about people, that we begin to see the things underneath the surface that might have even been there all along, but took someone digging deeper into us to find out.
Even this post-relationship phase has been rocky. I've been learning about myself and seeing things - toxic things - that were in my dating relationship that I hadn't seen while I was in it. It's enlightening and it's changing the way I look at and think about aspects of relationships to hold onto for next time.
The learning process is forever. There will always be more to learn.
Eyes open, chin up. I wish I were secure enough to see my strengths without having them told to me. Ah yes, but that is our nature, isn't it? The weaknesses are the obvious ones; our failures splayed like blood stains on a white backdrop... but that's where God prompts us: look to Me. Let me show you who you are. Let me reveal Myself because you have been made in My image. The more you encounter My glory, the more I will reveal yours.
Isn't it true, though? Because in our weaknesses, that's when He is strong; in our strengths, He is glorified. We are living, walking, breathing souls of glory for Him - He is always our strength; when we feel it and when we don't; when we fail and when we praise His name.
You are more than you know. You are more than your relationship with your significant other. You are more than just a conqueror. You are so much more than you know.