Life Changing Moment
It's been quite awhile since I've posted. I just wanted to say that I believe I've found my biological father. I've written on the subject a lot on Livejournal so even though I haven't consistently used it for awhile I felt that it was necessary to post this here.
Things have been very crazy over the past few days. This is an email from someone I’m about 95% sure is my genetic father:
Hi Michael,
I’m still dazzled by all of this and trying to make since of times and places, but it seems I knew your Mother, even tho memories are vague. if you want to get a DNA test send me your address and I’ll send you a lock of my hair. I am enclosing a sheet from a company someone I know used to determine paternity(cost about $150 they said). My wife said to tell you if I heard from you that she is no longer upset (especially since the time frame was before she and I were dating), her reaction was probably partially due to the fact that a lot of things are going on and things are rough for us at this time, since I am laid off and I have two houses(one a cottage up North) and consequentially a lot of bills we’re struggling with, and we just had a break-in up North, and a lot of valuables were stolen, so don’t take it personally.
sincerely,
(Name Removed for privacy purposes)
Here is my response to him
Hi,
Thank you. It is bizarre. It was difficult growing up without knowing anything about my background. I’ve had various father-like figures throughout my life, but no sense of where I was from. My brother Joseph and Sister Melissa (genetically half but legally full since their father adopted me) both died prematurely of Cystic Fibrosis and my childhood was anything but easy with that sort of struggle and heartache so you can imagine that should a test prove that you are my biological father it would be a desire of mine to meet you and your grown children. However, I have deep set of values that govern my actions, and while friendship and family and anything like that are possibilities I do not wish to disrupt anyone’s life if that would be the case. I just want you to know for sure that my heart is in the right place and ultimately I’m not after anything but knowledge and peace of mind for myself and my daughter who will turn two next month. Most importantly: I’m not looking for money or anything crazy like that. I promise to you with every ounce of my being that if a genetic test proves you to be my biological father I will never ask for one cent, nor am I entitled to anything.
I went to the genetree website. I don’t see any order forms or anything (their website great looking but poorly set up as far as usability {I can’t help to say things like this my wife is a graphic/web designer}) they do have some contact info so I suppose I can call them next week during business hours and/or possibly research alternatives
I want you to know I really appreciate the tone you have been taking and your cooperation. I’ve been prepared for this possibility for years, obviously this is something that like I said in our first phone conversation I knew might hit you like a ton of bricks. So thank you for being so gracious.
Warmest regards,
Michael Gerard
Things have been very crazy over the past few days. This is an email from someone I’m about 95% sure is my genetic father:
Hi Michael,
I’m still dazzled by all of this and trying to make since of times and places, but it seems I knew your Mother, even tho memories are vague. if you want to get a DNA test send me your address and I’ll send you a lock of my hair. I am enclosing a sheet from a company someone I know used to determine paternity(cost about $150 they said). My wife said to tell you if I heard from you that she is no longer upset (especially since the time frame was before she and I were dating), her reaction was probably partially due to the fact that a lot of things are going on and things are rough for us at this time, since I am laid off and I have two houses(one a cottage up North) and consequentially a lot of bills we’re struggling with, and we just had a break-in up North, and a lot of valuables were stolen, so don’t take it personally.
sincerely,
(Name Removed for privacy purposes)
Here is my response to him
Hi,
Thank you. It is bizarre. It was difficult growing up without knowing anything about my background. I’ve had various father-like figures throughout my life, but no sense of where I was from. My brother Joseph and Sister Melissa (genetically half but legally full since their father adopted me) both died prematurely of Cystic Fibrosis and my childhood was anything but easy with that sort of struggle and heartache so you can imagine that should a test prove that you are my biological father it would be a desire of mine to meet you and your grown children. However, I have deep set of values that govern my actions, and while friendship and family and anything like that are possibilities I do not wish to disrupt anyone’s life if that would be the case. I just want you to know for sure that my heart is in the right place and ultimately I’m not after anything but knowledge and peace of mind for myself and my daughter who will turn two next month. Most importantly: I’m not looking for money or anything crazy like that. I promise to you with every ounce of my being that if a genetic test proves you to be my biological father I will never ask for one cent, nor am I entitled to anything.
I went to the genetree website. I don’t see any order forms or anything (their website great looking but poorly set up as far as usability {I can’t help to say things like this my wife is a graphic/web designer}) they do have some contact info so I suppose I can call them next week during business hours and/or possibly research alternatives
I want you to know I really appreciate the tone you have been taking and your cooperation. I’ve been prepared for this possibility for years, obviously this is something that like I said in our first phone conversation I knew might hit you like a ton of bricks. So thank you for being so gracious.
Warmest regards,
Michael Gerard