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[mydisaster85]

project : get over Rafael :(

any suggestions as to how I get over a boy i really like...and still stay good friends with him. He is my best friend and I couldnt lose him ever.

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[liz_intrinsic]

Hi,
you don't know me but I like to read your journal from time to time. I found you really randomly from the bulimia_support community. And because I don't know you, I am going to give you the gift of very honest advice. Mind you, I am only going by what I have read here in your journal and my own personal experiences.

This Rafael guy does not sound very nice or like a good friend. It sounds like he likes to spend time with you only when it is convenient for him. You are a beautiful girl, I know you don't think so, but you are. Don't let him treat you this way. You are worth much more than how he makes you feel. I swear. It is easier for guys like this to prey on girls like us because of the low self-esteem and food issues. We don't always know that we deserve better.

I had a "boy-friend" like this once. We were together for several years. He used me all the time. He would always say that he wasnt ready for a relationship and didnt want to date me...but he would sleep with me...and date other girls. I was so crazy in love with him and I thought he was my best friend. I don't know how to explain it but it was not a healthy relationship and deep down I knew it but I thought I couldnt live without him. I thought that he "got" me.

I don't want to ramble but ultimately, I left him and met someone when I least expected it and he treats me the way I deserve to be treated. Sometimes I look back on the years I spent with this other guy and I am sick to my stomach by all of the time I wasted because I never thought I was good enough and he never told me otherwise because he had me right where he wanted me.

You have to cut him off completely if you want to get over him. You cant stay friends with him because you will always want something more than he does. And years form now you will look back and think Why was I so nuts about Rafael? Loser

Sorry if I'm out of line. I just want to help.

[mydisaster85]

hey hun. you are not out of line. i guess in my journal i never really explained the relationship that me and raf had completely. but thank you so much for your advice. I am going to add you as a friend. take care.