So much has happened so quickly, it's like my head's still spinning. Up and down and back and forth and the next thing I know I feel like the whole world's turned inside out
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A bit sleepy, but still tryingvipplerJanuary 21 2007, 08:52:59 UTC
Believing in and being able to acknowledge a reality are two different things. If he has to piece it together he might be more prepared to accept you truths but that doesn't mean it'll be any easier for you if he decides to lose his everlovin' mind about it.
I understand why you're hesitant about going back and forth on this--it's a huge part of you and confiding might seem the best way to build a foundation in this relationship--but it's, again, a huge part, and a very different part if I might add, of who you are. Too much of you to be giving away without expecting something bad, or at least preparing for it. Even if you're doing it in small bits, you're putting your hopes and, in the bad scenerio, setting yourself up for a long fall. I'd like to spare you that part of it by just putting it out there, just so you don't rush in.
All the same, you're handling the secret part pretty well. It's smart of you, doing it this way, because, and you're right, Humans overestimate themselves sometimes. It ain't fun when we find out we're wrong and Heaven forbid we're at fault for it! If he's as smart as you think he is, hopefully you won't have to go doing outrageously obvious things to keep the scent warm. Just two more things from you very special bad news bear named Vip:
1) The male ego is fragile. If and when he finds out, whether he loves you or not, there might be that part of him that is wounded. Don't ask why guys tend to think a secret kept from them with good intentions is an offense, but they might, and in certain situations there isn't time or the opportunity to set the record straight. When it's something this big, it'll be bad.
2) He seems to believe your kind are "blessed", meaning maybe he's been romanticizing the reality, whatever it might be. In this case, when he's faced with the truth and it isn't what he'd expected, all he believed in will crumble and, guess what, he won't blame himself.
On a good note I'm happy you're taking this by the horns and enjoying it for almost all it's worth. Stay safe, dawl!
I understand why you're hesitant about going back and forth on this--it's a huge part of you and confiding might seem the best way to build a foundation in this relationship--but it's, again, a huge part, and a very different part if I might add, of who you are. Too much of you to be giving away without expecting something bad, or at least preparing for it. Even if you're doing it in small bits, you're putting your hopes and, in the bad scenerio, setting yourself up for a long fall. I'd like to spare you that part of it by just putting it out there, just so you don't rush in.
All the same, you're handling the secret part pretty well. It's smart of you, doing it this way, because, and you're right, Humans overestimate themselves sometimes. It ain't fun when we find out we're wrong and Heaven forbid we're at fault for it! If he's as smart as you think he is, hopefully you won't have to go doing outrageously obvious things to keep the scent warm. Just two more things from you very special bad news bear named Vip:
1) The male ego is fragile. If and when he finds out, whether he loves you or not, there might be that part of him that is wounded. Don't ask why guys tend to think a secret kept from them with good intentions is an offense, but they might, and in certain situations there isn't time or the opportunity to set the record straight. When it's something this big, it'll be bad.
2) He seems to believe your kind are "blessed", meaning maybe he's been romanticizing the reality, whatever it might be. In this case, when he's faced with the truth and it isn't what he'd expected, all he believed in will crumble and, guess what, he won't blame himself.
On a good note I'm happy you're taking this by the horns and enjoying it for almost all it's worth. Stay safe, dawl!
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