Yeah, I don't really think they thought it through.
I'm glad she doesn't remember the negatives, but in some ways, I wish she remembered at least some of them so the divorce didn't come as such a shock to her. She had absolutely no idea anything was even remotely wrong. But I am happy she remembers dance parties instead of screaming matches.
Is there a big difference in your ages? Or is it just that she was shielded from some of it. Our parents didn't have screaming matches, but it was obvious for a long time that something wasn't right between them. I felt bad that I went off to college so soon after our parents separated and my sister -- 7 years younger -- had to be at home during that time of upheaval. But she had my brother to look out for her. I don't know about you, but as an older sister, I've always felt like a second mom to my sister and would do anything to shield her or protect her feelings.
But as adults, it's nice to be able to talk about it. You're right. It would be nice if your sister grasped more of it at the time.
We're 7.5 years apart. She was in fourth grade when I graduated high school, so third grade when my parents divorced. I did the same as you - took off after high school. I went to AmeriCorps right after high school and then straight to college. I felt bad, but I had to get away to take care of myself.
Sixteen years later, I'm still trying to protect her. :)
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I'm glad she doesn't remember the negatives, but in some ways, I wish she remembered at least some of them so the divorce didn't come as such a shock to her. She had absolutely no idea anything was even remotely wrong. But I am happy she remembers dance parties instead of screaming matches.
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But as adults, it's nice to be able to talk about it. You're right. It would be nice if your sister grasped more of it at the time.
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Sixteen years later, I'm still trying to protect her. :)
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