i'm really not as upset as this suggests

Jul 30, 2008 23:22

So, I never really thought I would tag this up as one of my personality traits, but I am seriously one arrogant son of a bitch. Most of you don't even need to be told that, and I think the majority of people who've been in my presence for longer than 5 seconds in some cases, are painfully aware of it ( Read more... )

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sorry this response is long, i got into it... singingdomi July 31 2008, 08:04:45 UTC
perhaps the only way to achieve validation from others is fully accepting who they are in their own right. realizing not everyone is like you and that is what makes the world beautiful. my friends are beautiful because they are each so different. you are far different from lauren, lauren is far different from rachel, rachel is far different from symmetry and so on.

i was always that weird person in highschool who had one geek friend, one band friend, one choir friend, one athlete friend, one goth friend, one art friend, one antisocial friend and dated the popular guy and in the end i had no idea where i was, who i was, and what group i was from to them. it bothers me from time to time that i still have scattered friends and more and more of them are becoming less okay with being different from each other. i love them each and every one in different ways because i can accomplish goals and get information and experiences that are so unlike the other. i can get outlooks and perspectives i could never achieve if i had stuck to one type of people. regardless of whether or not i like the way kristin treats children or the way lauren gets excited over the tiniest thing, or the fact that i have vegan friends and i am not. most of my inner morals i don't fully express to most of my friends and when i do we have debates, talks, sometimes arguements about them. i have christian friends, atheist friends, buddihist friends, agnostic friends, catholic friends, jewish friends. i have gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual friends. i have black, middle eastern, serbian, asian, mixed friends.

i am myself, they are themselves and that is how i hope they remain.

stop putting a force-field of arrogance around yourself no matter how hard it is to break that down. open yourself to the good, bad and the ugly that may be thrown at you in any social situation. this takes alot of energy and patience and is occasionally draining but what is satisfying (sp?) about it all is that you expand your horizons, whether or not the person struck a chord with you or not you more than likely just gained some sort of knowledge on how you react to people, places, and situations and in the end you are actually growing redardless of whether or not that person becomes a great friend. the only way you can continue to experience things like this is to continue to throw yourself into the beyond.

so spread your wings... flee the nest of introversion and fully accept the fact that you may fall flat on your face several times before learning to really fly.

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