vent
soo my mom is visiting her sister in georgia so me and tony have the house to ourselves. no problem except tony needs lots of attention and it makes me want to shoot myself. no i don't want to go on a bikeride with you, no i don't want to watch some random movie with you after i just spent a few hours with my dad and other relatives and for the love of god please stop waking me up from my naps ot say that you're going on a bike ride I DON'T CARE we are separate entities i don't rely on you and you sure as hell shouldnt rely on me. we had a phone convo before i came back that basically consisted of me saying treat me like an adult and we'll be fine and him saying ok good. well it sure doesn't feel like he's treating me like an adult whatsoever.
so this weekend he asked me to help out with teh garden so i say ok. i go downstairs at the appropriate time to see if he's around and he was on the phone with some customer service person so i grabbed a banana and went upstairs to change to help with the garden. i'm about to head downstairs and i see him leave in his car. so i wait around for 30+minutes and he isn't back so i leave. i'm sure as hell not oging ot wait around for him. i come back and say hey i waited around for you for 30+ minutes to do the gardening where did you go? and he said oh i thought you didn't see the note so i left. and then i say well you should have told me this so i wasn't waiting around for you or left another note or talked to me since i was obviously up when he left. and he felt a little bad but not enough acknowledgement of how i was waiting around for him to show up. so i thought since we're talking about things i should mention that he should only come into my room when he knocks and i say come in and that he shouldn't knock and still come in if theres no response even if theres noise from my room since i fall asleep watching stuff a lot. and he says ok and you need to work on shutting the fridge door all the way, i've come home a lot lately and it's been open. (we got a new fridge and you have to make sure it shuts you can't just tap it and assume it's going to close) i sorta look at him like that seems a bit off topic since im talking about interpersonal communication and you're talking about the fridge and my topics are more important since i obviously already know about the fridge. anyhoo today i guess i left it open again (im getting better) and he feels the need to come to the top of the stairs and call me from my room. i say yes? and he goes do you hear that beeping? and i say oh i cant hear it up here ill go shut the door. and he goes no i'll get it and proceeds to explain to me why it's important to shut the fridge door, i end up getting pissed off and saying along the lines of "i know, i'm working on it you don't have to make such a big deal about the door i know why it needs to be shut you don't have to explain it im just not used to it yet all you have to do is yell up the stairs at me to shut the door and ill take care of it how you're handling it is rubbing me the wrong way" in yelling tone and whatnot. idk if i'm overreacting about the fridge but seriously this has not thing to do with me acting like a kid (which he insists i am) this is me not being used to having to push the door until it's closed which i'll get used to eventually. coming up the stairs to quietly remind me to shut the door and then explaining it to me just rubs me the wrong way. i got it i don't need more then a 1 liner along the lines of "shut the door" or "shut the fucking door" or "you forgot the fucking door again" coming up the stairs feels like he's making a big deal of it.
so this weekend he asked me to help out with teh garden so i say ok. i go downstairs at the appropriate time to see if he's around and he was on the phone with some customer service person so i grabbed a banana and went upstairs to change to help with the garden. i'm about to head downstairs and i see him leave in his car. so i wait around for 30+minutes and he isn't back so i leave. i'm sure as hell not oging ot wait around for him. i come back and say hey i waited around for you for 30+ minutes to do the gardening where did you go? and he said oh i thought you didn't see the note so i left. and then i say well you should have told me this so i wasn't waiting around for you or left another note or talked to me since i was obviously up when he left. and he felt a little bad but not enough acknowledgement of how i was waiting around for him to show up. so i thought since we're talking about things i should mention that he should only come into my room when he knocks and i say come in and that he shouldn't knock and still come in if theres no response even if theres noise from my room since i fall asleep watching stuff a lot. and he says ok and you need to work on shutting the fridge door all the way, i've come home a lot lately and it's been open. (we got a new fridge and you have to make sure it shuts you can't just tap it and assume it's going to close) i sorta look at him like that seems a bit off topic since im talking about interpersonal communication and you're talking about the fridge and my topics are more important since i obviously already know about the fridge. anyhoo today i guess i left it open again (im getting better) and he feels the need to come to the top of the stairs and call me from my room. i say yes? and he goes do you hear that beeping? and i say oh i cant hear it up here ill go shut the door. and he goes no i'll get it and proceeds to explain to me why it's important to shut the fridge door, i end up getting pissed off and saying along the lines of "i know, i'm working on it you don't have to make such a big deal about the door i know why it needs to be shut you don't have to explain it im just not used to it yet all you have to do is yell up the stairs at me to shut the door and ill take care of it how you're handling it is rubbing me the wrong way" in yelling tone and whatnot. idk if i'm overreacting about the fridge but seriously this has not thing to do with me acting like a kid (which he insists i am) this is me not being used to having to push the door until it's closed which i'll get used to eventually. coming up the stairs to quietly remind me to shut the door and then explaining it to me just rubs me the wrong way. i got it i don't need more then a 1 liner along the lines of "shut the door" or "shut the fucking door" or "you forgot the fucking door again" coming up the stairs feels like he's making a big deal of it.