why???
So I was reading something today and it made me think of Ryan which was the opposite of what I wanted to happen.
I was reading this:
Are you over your ex? Are you sure?
By Alonna Friedman
1. His name is no longer part of your lexicon. “You need to talk about your ex to process the breakup and exorcise him from your mind,” says Rhonda Findling, author of Don’t Call That Man: A Survival Guide to Letting Go. “But if you still make references to him months down the line, you’re still preoccupied.” That goes for praising him and badmouthing him.
2. You’ve erased all signs of him. Any reminder, no matter how cute or fuzzy, will let the relationship specter haunt you. Take those photos, the stuffed monkey, and the cheap necklace and hide them in the back of the closet. Even less obvious bits of the past can keep you from moving forward. “I deleted his number from my cell because it came right before my mom’s so I saw his name all the time,” says Carla, 28, of New York City. “Then I got rid all the voicemails I had saved.”
3. Reminders of him don’t cause pain. Some things you can’t put up in the closet. Whether it’s the song you danced to when “I love you” was first uttered or hearing someone order his favorite sandwich in a deli, you should no longer get weepy. Lots of people like roast beef on rye. It’s okay if you’re prompted to remember him briefly, but sad thoughts should not prevail.
4. He has a new girlfriend-and you’re happy about that. “I heard my ex was seeing someone new and I was jealous at first,” says Marie, 29, of San Diego, California. “It was only when I stopped feeling sick to my stomach that I knew I was 100 percent over him.” When you feel genuinely happy that he has moved on, it’s time for you to do the same.
5. You stop comparing new men to your ex. “You can blame it on lack of chemistry, but if you aren’t ready to start a new relationship, you’ll come up with any excuse for why the date was bad,” says Findling. You are over him when you can peg a bad date as just that - bad - and not blame the guy for failing to live up to your ex.
6. Having the weekend to yourself feels fine. When your other half is gone, being alone feels dreadful. How can you get through that unstructured time without that special someone by your side? But eventually that anxious outlook fades. “Weekends were always for couple time, so it was hard to be single on Sundays,” says Linda, 32, of Englewood, New Jersey. “Then one day I woke up and was so relieved that I could enjoy some peace and quiet.” Once being solo is as appealing than being a duo, you’ll have better luck finding another (better-suited) partner.
Not over him yet? Three tricks to get you on track
1. Think negative thoughts. Women have a tendency to remember only the good parts. To edge closer to your “I’m so over him” status, remind yourself of all the things you couldn’t stand (Why couldn’t he shut up during movies?). Even better, ask your friends to remind you. They’ll probably have plenty of ammo.
2. Get your new support system going. Got a new job offer? The ex may be the first one to pop into your head to call for advice, but don’t-call your sister instead. Rent going up again? Complain to a coworker. You need to reprogram who you turn to for support and advice so your brain can really erase his presence.
3. Dream up your fantasy man. We all think about what we (or he) could have done differently to make the relationship work. But rather than harping on “what if’s,” make a list of your top five dreamy characteristics in a future boyfriend. And share them the next time you’re out with the girls. Who knows? Maybe they’ve got just the guy for you.
1.Yup that's me but I think that is because I still want to be friends i think? Tell me what you think
5. He is kinda is my standard because he is my recent crush. But I have never heard that one so I will try.
Yeah so have tried all the get over him quick things except the last one. So I guess I will try that. So here we go
A sence of humor
good smile and eyes (not a requitrement but very helpful)
give good hugs
have enough in common to have a good time
Get along with you guys because you are my best friends and if they can get along with you then it should be easy for me to get along with them.
But other then that, today the HPLC broke so that was fun. And so I am out of work early but my AIM is not working still stupid computer. I hate it sometimes. But what can I do.
I was reading this:
Are you over your ex? Are you sure?
By Alonna Friedman
1. His name is no longer part of your lexicon. “You need to talk about your ex to process the breakup and exorcise him from your mind,” says Rhonda Findling, author of Don’t Call That Man: A Survival Guide to Letting Go. “But if you still make references to him months down the line, you’re still preoccupied.” That goes for praising him and badmouthing him.
2. You’ve erased all signs of him. Any reminder, no matter how cute or fuzzy, will let the relationship specter haunt you. Take those photos, the stuffed monkey, and the cheap necklace and hide them in the back of the closet. Even less obvious bits of the past can keep you from moving forward. “I deleted his number from my cell because it came right before my mom’s so I saw his name all the time,” says Carla, 28, of New York City. “Then I got rid all the voicemails I had saved.”
3. Reminders of him don’t cause pain. Some things you can’t put up in the closet. Whether it’s the song you danced to when “I love you” was first uttered or hearing someone order his favorite sandwich in a deli, you should no longer get weepy. Lots of people like roast beef on rye. It’s okay if you’re prompted to remember him briefly, but sad thoughts should not prevail.
4. He has a new girlfriend-and you’re happy about that. “I heard my ex was seeing someone new and I was jealous at first,” says Marie, 29, of San Diego, California. “It was only when I stopped feeling sick to my stomach that I knew I was 100 percent over him.” When you feel genuinely happy that he has moved on, it’s time for you to do the same.
5. You stop comparing new men to your ex. “You can blame it on lack of chemistry, but if you aren’t ready to start a new relationship, you’ll come up with any excuse for why the date was bad,” says Findling. You are over him when you can peg a bad date as just that - bad - and not blame the guy for failing to live up to your ex.
6. Having the weekend to yourself feels fine. When your other half is gone, being alone feels dreadful. How can you get through that unstructured time without that special someone by your side? But eventually that anxious outlook fades. “Weekends were always for couple time, so it was hard to be single on Sundays,” says Linda, 32, of Englewood, New Jersey. “Then one day I woke up and was so relieved that I could enjoy some peace and quiet.” Once being solo is as appealing than being a duo, you’ll have better luck finding another (better-suited) partner.
Not over him yet? Three tricks to get you on track
1. Think negative thoughts. Women have a tendency to remember only the good parts. To edge closer to your “I’m so over him” status, remind yourself of all the things you couldn’t stand (Why couldn’t he shut up during movies?). Even better, ask your friends to remind you. They’ll probably have plenty of ammo.
2. Get your new support system going. Got a new job offer? The ex may be the first one to pop into your head to call for advice, but don’t-call your sister instead. Rent going up again? Complain to a coworker. You need to reprogram who you turn to for support and advice so your brain can really erase his presence.
3. Dream up your fantasy man. We all think about what we (or he) could have done differently to make the relationship work. But rather than harping on “what if’s,” make a list of your top five dreamy characteristics in a future boyfriend. And share them the next time you’re out with the girls. Who knows? Maybe they’ve got just the guy for you.
1.Yup that's me but I think that is because I still want to be friends i think? Tell me what you think
5. He is kinda is my standard because he is my recent crush. But I have never heard that one so I will try.
Yeah so have tried all the get over him quick things except the last one. So I guess I will try that. So here we go
A sence of humor
good smile and eyes (not a requitrement but very helpful)
give good hugs
have enough in common to have a good time
Get along with you guys because you are my best friends and if they can get along with you then it should be easy for me to get along with them.
But other then that, today the HPLC broke so that was fun. And so I am out of work early but my AIM is not working still stupid computer. I hate it sometimes. But what can I do.