Sometimes You Don't Need a Reason...
I had a conversation with a friend of mine once about when one should break things off with the person he or she is dating. I told her that she doesn't have to wait for things to get worse before she breaks it off. She doesn't need to wait for an event or concrete evidence before walking off because if you're waiting for that to happen, you probably have so much negative energy storing up inside that you end up becoming that crazy girl. You know, the one who goes through his text messages, call log, email, facebook posts, etc. just looking for something to pin on him. And in her previous relationships oftentimes she's found something that ultimately hurts her even more. What I told her is, the moment you feel that something is off whether he isn't paying as much attention to you or you just don't quite feel the same, just walk away.
I didn't understand why she had difficulty doing this. Because really, I would rather walk away from someone for seemingly no reason then wait around, let my crazy out, then find out he was cheating on me. I mean, her situation(s) is, in my opinion, pretty easily avoidable. A lot of times the guys she dates actually give away red flags like checking out other girls, texting or taking phone calls from girls when they're together, etc. But what about the situation when the guy is decent? When he treats you right, cares for you, and things aren't as clear cut? In those situations it's pretty hard to figure out what to do but the truth is, same thing applies. If something is off, walk away. Trust in your instincts. Yes, there's history, your own insecurities, doubts or what not but ultimately I think you really do just know underneath it all whether to stay or go.
So I'm going to take my own advice and walk away, even if there is no concrete reason behind it. I'm sorry, but, this just isn't working.
I didn't understand why she had difficulty doing this. Because really, I would rather walk away from someone for seemingly no reason then wait around, let my crazy out, then find out he was cheating on me. I mean, her situation(s) is, in my opinion, pretty easily avoidable. A lot of times the guys she dates actually give away red flags like checking out other girls, texting or taking phone calls from girls when they're together, etc. But what about the situation when the guy is decent? When he treats you right, cares for you, and things aren't as clear cut? In those situations it's pretty hard to figure out what to do but the truth is, same thing applies. If something is off, walk away. Trust in your instincts. Yes, there's history, your own insecurities, doubts or what not but ultimately I think you really do just know underneath it all whether to stay or go.
So I'm going to take my own advice and walk away, even if there is no concrete reason behind it. I'm sorry, but, this just isn't working.