Off to a Good Start
I've been thinking about doing this for a while, and last Sunday...I finally did it. I reached out to Bikee, my ex. What I really wanted to do was invite him out for a cup of coffee or something, but our mutual friend advised against it.
I wasn't sure how he saw me, if he still had some resentment towards me, or if we can finally move past this and become friends. The truth is, as much as looking at the past makes me angry at times because of the things I put up with and the little details I should have paid more attention to, I still remember all the good times, and there were definitely a lot of those. We may not have been friends before we started dating but we were definitely friends as well as lovers, and the former is really what I miss. I miss his friendship, his company, and really, I just miss him (not in a romantic way). So, I sent him a simple "how are you doing" facebook message and we've had a couple of email exchanges. I know it doesn't seem like much but it really made my day. I'm just glad that we're able to communicate in some small way. Maybe one day we can be better friends than the super casual fb message, but for now, it's a start. And no, I don't expect us to become bffs anytime soon, or maybe even ever, but it's good to know that he does not hate my guts. :)
I was telling my friend about this over lunch and when I opened my fortune cookie, it said, "Now is the time to call loved ones at a distance. Share your news." Not that I have news, nor is he my "loved one," but how appropriate, huh?
Indeed, why can't we?
I wasn't sure how he saw me, if he still had some resentment towards me, or if we can finally move past this and become friends. The truth is, as much as looking at the past makes me angry at times because of the things I put up with and the little details I should have paid more attention to, I still remember all the good times, and there were definitely a lot of those. We may not have been friends before we started dating but we were definitely friends as well as lovers, and the former is really what I miss. I miss his friendship, his company, and really, I just miss him (not in a romantic way). So, I sent him a simple "how are you doing" facebook message and we've had a couple of email exchanges. I know it doesn't seem like much but it really made my day. I'm just glad that we're able to communicate in some small way. Maybe one day we can be better friends than the super casual fb message, but for now, it's a start. And no, I don't expect us to become bffs anytime soon, or maybe even ever, but it's good to know that he does not hate my guts. :)
I was telling my friend about this over lunch and when I opened my fortune cookie, it said, "Now is the time to call loved ones at a distance. Share your news." Not that I have news, nor is he my "loved one," but how appropriate, huh?
Click to viewIndeed, why can't we?