Letter to a Former Friend
Hello "Friend",
Years ago when our friend introduced us, I said "If she likes you, then you must be a great person" and resolved to make you feel as welcome as possible. We did have good moments chatting in the beginning and it was cool to do a group chat between you, me, our friend who introduced us, and another friend.
Things did begin to crumble with our other friends having to leave or exit for various reasons. I understood why they left and you did too. I didn't realize however, that you were probably trying to be polite because we all talked to the friend who introduced us regularly. Looking back, clearly I wasn't a favorite in your circle.
I'm not sure if it was a combination of the current events or some personal matters, but starting from last year to now, it's clear that you are only putting in the bare minimum for this friendship. Someone told me a good, long-lasting friendship is supposed to be a two-way street. Ours was no longer that. Any news you had to share, good or bad, had a lot of detail and any friendly suggestions I offered seemed to fall on deaf ears. If I tried to share my news, it was met with little enthusiasm or concern and you quickly changed the subject.
You may have triple the number of followers on social media, but you have no right to act like they're your groupies or servants. These people came to read your content and however they choose interact with it is up to them and their comfort level. Demanding they give feedback in verbal comments or telling you how they felt about your work without the safety of anonymous commenting is a lot to ask for. Many of your followers prefer anonymous commenting because they might be shy or nervous to talk to you. In addition, threatening to leave the social media site if people don't step up on showering your content in likes and comments is immature. Few are going to put up with the behavior and they'll see you as childish.
Another friend noted you only show interest in one famous star. That's fine if you follow their work, but it is clear your interest is skewing toward the negative meaning of fan. (In other words, the original word that fan derived from - fanatic.) This further was shown when you tried to comment on a dating rumor between your favorite star and a fellow entertainer. Yes you claimed you were trying to be happy for the star, but to turn around and claim you think the other entertainer is bad, despite not knowing anything about them, says otherwise. You had no right to say you know this person is wrong for the star as you have not done your homework and are following the flock who are against the entertainer. This is very junior high behavior.
I respected you as a single parent and trying to make things better for your child. But you need to figure out on your own how to show care and compassion to others that may not be from the same walks of life as you. Brushing them off and dismissing any attempts to help you is unfair and it is poor behavior. You will lose people this way.
Oddly I don't feel guilty cutting ties with you. Your behavior as of these past few months is volatile, dramatic, and highly toxic to deal with. I do not need to deal with your drama when I need to heal in times like these.
Hopefully you can step back and reevaluate what matters.