Re: Oh, how I missed you.museAugust 31 2010, 17:49:54 UTC
As I've gotten older, I've changed my views of good feminists vs. bad feminists or even good activist vs. bad activist. That is too myopic. What you feel is valid. It doesn't make you a bad anything because there is a reason behind almost every person's viewpoint--whether they are a racist or a humanitarian. I just try to be the best Ms. Blackfeather that I can be and leave the labels behind a little more these days.
You've heard of Stockholm Syndrome, right? It's where the victim of a kidnapping starts to sympathise with her captors, and in a way, furthers the goal of said captor. Some victims of it even start hating those who are trying to free them, while loving their abductors. If you look at women, how can you expect them to unite when they've never been allowed to have a cohesive body the way that the militaries of many civilisations have allowed? I'm not talking about Girl Scouts or other groups. I'm talking about a powerful body that impacts the world in a powerful way. Monarchies and churches were based on male superiority. To say we gave our power away to men implies that we had a certain power. Knowing history, you must know that our power as a gender was severely limited. How does a girl understand that power if she's never been given the philosophical awareness that it exists? To blame the woman who doesn't understand sisterhood because she's never been shown an example of it working is to blame someone who is ignorant. Ignorance cannot be blamed, only pitied. We didn't let them do anything; victims don't allow their rapists and attackers to do so. There are times when one is simply not physically able to undertake such a huge task as what you're wanting.
It seems as if you're putting too much focus on female blame, which in a way, does align you with those who would want to subjugate females. It's much like when girls will call another girl a slut because their boyfriends like her or they pay attention to her. One must look at the reasons behind why women do these things and also, why men do the things that they do. The motivation and conditioning play a huge part in how people behave. Ultimately, people behave in a way that is advantageous to them.
In group situations, most people will become allies of someone who they disagree with if that someone is more powerful than they are. The mob mentality can be intimidating. I've seen it at school, in workplaces, and social situations. A powerful, charismatic person can abuse others if she makes them scared and tricks them into thinking that they need her. Then, they will carry out her wishes, and she won't have to lift a finger.
Re: Oh, how I missed you.smartlikeatruckAugust 31 2010, 18:25:00 UTC
I have been torn apart by too many women, too many women that called themselves my friends. We are taught to revile one another, to vilify women who do not keep their eyes downcast and their steps small. We had power, but it was so long ago that we have forgotten, so long ago that it was not written down for us to remember. I do not hate them for what they do, but I am angry at their mothers, and their fathers, and their grandmothers and their grandfathers, stretching on and on longer than they can trace. I do what I can, I keep the words flowing, I talk to teenagers, I work to educate, I try. I do not give up. I do not let men use their words against me. It is easier, though, to teach a man to see women differently. Women are a whole other story.
You've heard of Stockholm Syndrome, right? It's where the victim of a kidnapping starts to sympathise with her captors, and in a way, furthers the goal of said captor. Some victims of it even start hating those who are trying to free them, while loving their abductors. If you look at women, how can you expect them to unite when they've never been allowed to have a cohesive body the way that the militaries of many civilisations have allowed? I'm not talking about Girl Scouts or other groups. I'm talking about a powerful body that impacts the world in a powerful way. Monarchies and churches were based on male superiority. To say we gave our power away to men implies that we had a certain power. Knowing history, you must know that our power as a gender was severely limited. How does a girl understand that power if she's never been given the philosophical awareness that it exists? To blame the woman who doesn't understand sisterhood because she's never been shown an example of it working is to blame someone who is ignorant. Ignorance cannot be blamed, only pitied. We didn't let them do anything; victims don't allow their rapists and attackers to do so. There are times when one is simply not physically able to undertake such a huge task as what you're wanting.
It seems as if you're putting too much focus on female blame, which in a way, does align you with those who would want to subjugate females. It's much like when girls will call another girl a slut because their boyfriends like her or they pay attention to her. One must look at the reasons behind why women do these things and also, why men do the things that they do. The motivation and conditioning play a huge part in how people behave. Ultimately, people behave in a way that is advantageous to them.
In group situations, most people will become allies of someone who they disagree with if that someone is more powerful than they are. The mob mentality can be intimidating. I've seen it at school, in workplaces, and social situations. A powerful, charismatic person can abuse others if she makes them scared and tricks them into thinking that they need her. Then, they will carry out her wishes, and she won't have to lift a finger.
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I do not hate them for what they do, but I am angry at their mothers, and their fathers, and their grandmothers and their grandfathers, stretching on and on longer than they can trace.
I do what I can, I keep the words flowing, I talk to teenagers, I work to educate, I try. I do not give up. I do not let men use their words against me. It is easier, though, to teach a man to see women differently. Women are a whole other story.
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