I guess... contemplative...
I know that I am not one for posting. I see so many others that post all sorts of things here. They lock somethings to just friends or maybe specific friends. I have started to be more active in livejournal, partially because it is summer and I have time for this thing. Something I can not figure out about this style of communication is the ways that people will use it. To one point it is a manner of general communication among friends. Some people will meet new people through LJ. Those people become LJ friends. Some times people com here to vent and it allows them to get feed back. some people come here to post about their lives and problems some times with hope of finding someone that can relate too them.
It makes me wonder about why people use this site. The idea of the locked post among friends or select people I can understand to a point. But some of the others of fully open post of people ranting about thing or posting about their lives. I wonder if it is a theraputic ability to be able to comfortably speak of problems to people with out having to have that direct contact. It gives people a form of protection event if it is an artifical one. To one point this is good because it allows people to open up for the people that find it hard to speak of things. To them I give congradulations to finding a way to be able to talk and express your thoughts. One fear I have of this site is that people with use this method of communication as a crutch and decrease or degrade their live social connections with people and the world. This fear may seem unpresedented but I tend to look into the distant future with things. I thought about the fact of how we use to use leters throught the regular (or snail) mail. People would wait sometimes a weeks or more for responces. This is kinda the same thing but just quicker. And I discovered that it spoils people and degrade a person's patience. They want things now and can not wait and if you take too long to respond to things they start to freak out.
One aspect of this is the part where people come here to talk about the bad stuff in their lives. Some times thingst that they would not say to a room full of people but can come here and type out their statements for, sometimes, the whole world to read. Again, playing on the disconnection of not having that person or crowd of friends or people stairing you in the face when you tell them something about yourself. It gives them a chance to ignore what you type. It give the typer the chance to not have to deal with that direct rejection.
The reason I have thought of all of this and posting it here is that I have a desire to tell this site some situations in my family life, things that no one needs to know or asked to know. Plus, I tend to be some one that does not speak of my personal things with people. "It's mine to deal with and I should be able to deal with it myself", is the concept. Oh and if there are English Majors out there reading this you should probably stop reading my journal or get drunk before you do bcause I have terrible English skills. Any way... I have learned that this self containing concept... maybe self righteous... maybe it's just a selfish concept... uhh... any way this concept is something that I have come to see can person a person into an early grave. It can make people unwilling to ask for help. You first think that not asking for help in not that bad but it has some sever ramification. The most severe is someone who does not "feel right" but decide that asking someone or talk about it is something that should not be done because you should be able to deal with it your self can kill a person. They get to a point that they can not even ask someone for knowledge on a presonal topic for fear of it being the same as asking for help with the problem.
I know and understand that I can not deal with all things on my own. I am married now and she knows everything about me that I can remember. I have promised my life and my heart to her and yet I still find myself now asking her for help when I may be needing to. But now I am taking this concept to livejournal. How does one decide what is worth talking to... no that is not right... How does one know or figure out what to bother the populace of Livejournal for help with? I do not think I worded that correctly. I guess what I am trying to say is, what TMI (Too Much Information) when it comes to livejournal?
Wow that was lot of babbling and stream of conscience to figure out that question.
What is TMI when it comes to livejournal?
Any takers on a shoot at an answer?
Anyone?
It makes me wonder about why people use this site. The idea of the locked post among friends or select people I can understand to a point. But some of the others of fully open post of people ranting about thing or posting about their lives. I wonder if it is a theraputic ability to be able to comfortably speak of problems to people with out having to have that direct contact. It gives people a form of protection event if it is an artifical one. To one point this is good because it allows people to open up for the people that find it hard to speak of things. To them I give congradulations to finding a way to be able to talk and express your thoughts. One fear I have of this site is that people with use this method of communication as a crutch and decrease or degrade their live social connections with people and the world. This fear may seem unpresedented but I tend to look into the distant future with things. I thought about the fact of how we use to use leters throught the regular (or snail) mail. People would wait sometimes a weeks or more for responces. This is kinda the same thing but just quicker. And I discovered that it spoils people and degrade a person's patience. They want things now and can not wait and if you take too long to respond to things they start to freak out.
One aspect of this is the part where people come here to talk about the bad stuff in their lives. Some times thingst that they would not say to a room full of people but can come here and type out their statements for, sometimes, the whole world to read. Again, playing on the disconnection of not having that person or crowd of friends or people stairing you in the face when you tell them something about yourself. It gives them a chance to ignore what you type. It give the typer the chance to not have to deal with that direct rejection.
The reason I have thought of all of this and posting it here is that I have a desire to tell this site some situations in my family life, things that no one needs to know or asked to know. Plus, I tend to be some one that does not speak of my personal things with people. "It's mine to deal with and I should be able to deal with it myself", is the concept. Oh and if there are English Majors out there reading this you should probably stop reading my journal or get drunk before you do bcause I have terrible English skills. Any way... I have learned that this self containing concept... maybe self righteous... maybe it's just a selfish concept... uhh... any way this concept is something that I have come to see can person a person into an early grave. It can make people unwilling to ask for help. You first think that not asking for help in not that bad but it has some sever ramification. The most severe is someone who does not "feel right" but decide that asking someone or talk about it is something that should not be done because you should be able to deal with it your self can kill a person. They get to a point that they can not even ask someone for knowledge on a presonal topic for fear of it being the same as asking for help with the problem.
I know and understand that I can not deal with all things on my own. I am married now and she knows everything about me that I can remember. I have promised my life and my heart to her and yet I still find myself now asking her for help when I may be needing to. But now I am taking this concept to livejournal. How does one decide what is worth talking to... no that is not right... How does one know or figure out what to bother the populace of Livejournal for help with? I do not think I worded that correctly. I guess what I am trying to say is, what TMI (Too Much Information) when it comes to livejournal?
Wow that was lot of babbling and stream of conscience to figure out that question.
What is TMI when it comes to livejournal?
Any takers on a shoot at an answer?
Anyone?