I'm a lazy cheater, but words are words
My response to Katie's Thoughts:
1) Rarely do we get the gift of having a great friend who distance-wise is close with us as well. Whether a real friendship can be kept alive with distance depends on the two people (ok, duh, Mu; way to state the obvious). If we were 14 or 16 or even younger, I'd say no; life is just moving too fast and we don't have time to stop and miss and stay completely in touch with those who are in our hearts, but not always on our minds because they don't appear in front of our faces.
But as we get older and our friends get jobs in different locations, get married, have kids, and all of that good stuff, as mature adults we come to accept that friendship is a feeling, a connection; something that can be kept alive by a phone call, an e-mail, etc, although it is best kept alive by physical interaction.
The older we get, the less time we will have for our friends so how often we all see each other is really uncertain. It may seem impossible to be best friends with someone who doesn't live in the same city or state or country as you, but after awhile, the memories, the bond, the love will be enough so that even if you only talk once a month, all the old feelings are still there.
I don't know what any of our futures will be like or where any of us will end up and how many new friends we will make and how many old ones we will keep. I do know that even if it's just for the sake of the 16/17 year old me that met the wonderful 16/17 year old you, I will try. Sure we will go through periods when we won't think of each other, but it's a nice little friendship stored away in our hearts and taken out of it's box whenever we do communicate or see each other.
2) I have the same fears as you: the fact that time will reveal how little I mean to people. But there's a more self-comforting way to see that issue. As long as we know we didn't give up on a worthwhile friendship/relationship, then we've done our parts. If we still get "tossed away" whether intentionally or not, it's not so much a revelation about our personalities & whatnot, but a reflection of the individual who "dumped" us.
Your self-esteem is yours and no one should get a say in how high or low it is. I think it'd be nice (although difficult) to try and separate our self-esteem & confidence in ourselves from that part of our social selves which likes to be rewarded with love and affection. That's the only way to keep our heads up and survive it all even if there aren't many people around us to speed up the healing process when we're hurt.
As for being the prettiest, smartest, funniest, etc - no one is; we can only be the prettiest, smartest, funniest in someone's perspective because love adds "most" to all the things we already are: most pretty, most caring, most special, etc.
That's the romantic in me talking but I still believe that eventually good things will happen to good people. I might have a cynical shell, but inside that shell, the sweet caramel hasn't hardened or rotted...yet.
1) Rarely do we get the gift of having a great friend who distance-wise is close with us as well. Whether a real friendship can be kept alive with distance depends on the two people (ok, duh, Mu; way to state the obvious). If we were 14 or 16 or even younger, I'd say no; life is just moving too fast and we don't have time to stop and miss and stay completely in touch with those who are in our hearts, but not always on our minds because they don't appear in front of our faces.
But as we get older and our friends get jobs in different locations, get married, have kids, and all of that good stuff, as mature adults we come to accept that friendship is a feeling, a connection; something that can be kept alive by a phone call, an e-mail, etc, although it is best kept alive by physical interaction.
The older we get, the less time we will have for our friends so how often we all see each other is really uncertain. It may seem impossible to be best friends with someone who doesn't live in the same city or state or country as you, but after awhile, the memories, the bond, the love will be enough so that even if you only talk once a month, all the old feelings are still there.
I don't know what any of our futures will be like or where any of us will end up and how many new friends we will make and how many old ones we will keep. I do know that even if it's just for the sake of the 16/17 year old me that met the wonderful 16/17 year old you, I will try. Sure we will go through periods when we won't think of each other, but it's a nice little friendship stored away in our hearts and taken out of it's box whenever we do communicate or see each other.
2) I have the same fears as you: the fact that time will reveal how little I mean to people. But there's a more self-comforting way to see that issue. As long as we know we didn't give up on a worthwhile friendship/relationship, then we've done our parts. If we still get "tossed away" whether intentionally or not, it's not so much a revelation about our personalities & whatnot, but a reflection of the individual who "dumped" us.
Your self-esteem is yours and no one should get a say in how high or low it is. I think it'd be nice (although difficult) to try and separate our self-esteem & confidence in ourselves from that part of our social selves which likes to be rewarded with love and affection. That's the only way to keep our heads up and survive it all even if there aren't many people around us to speed up the healing process when we're hurt.
As for being the prettiest, smartest, funniest, etc - no one is; we can only be the prettiest, smartest, funniest in someone's perspective because love adds "most" to all the things we already are: most pretty, most caring, most special, etc.
That's the romantic in me talking but I still believe that eventually good things will happen to good people. I might have a cynical shell, but inside that shell, the sweet caramel hasn't hardened or rotted...yet.