Recently
I'm back in the 100+ degree heat in Southern California. It's been over 100 almost every single day since I've been back here (August 27). While the weather isn't my favorite, I've had a good time since being back.
Sometime over winter break I wrote an entry about balance with everything in my life at this point. I admitted that academics have been really my only focus since Janina and I broke up. I wondered if I would later regret that fact. After talking to a few people about that same topic this past weekend, I do feel like I'm annoyed at how I allowed academics to prevail at the expense of everything else for the majority of my time here. After becoming single in Oct 2004, I've only met one girl who I thought I'd like to perhaps eventually look into a relationship with. We knew each other for most of the 10 wk stretch we spent at Cornell in summer 2005, and I thought we really had a great time. I don't think I'm such a bad guy with regards to these matters. I'm always completely honest and upfront about what I think. We briefly touched on the relationship issue last fall, but the timing wasn't right for both of us to be thorough about how we felt. Finally, a couple nights ago, we actually were complete in our descriptions about how we felt. We both admitted that we enjoyed hanging out together and thought we could have a lot of nice conversations on a multifarious range of topics. However, we also admitted that perhaps there were other people in the world who each of us was more attracted to. We touched on that topic of attractiveness for a while... just as a general topic.
How big of a role should physical attraction play in a relationship? Objectively, if there's anything that would be holding us back from thinking a relationship might be an interesting thing to pursue if the circumstances were right, I think that physical attraction issue is it. We seemed to settle on the fact that it's a bit of a silly thing to let physical attraction drive your relationship or perhaps even prevent it altogether. I was honest with her and told her that physical attraction (if it's there) wears off REALLY fast anyway. Once you get to know someone, you really are attracted to other things about that person, you get used to how that person looks, and you really don't think about it. I just think it's inane that a potentially very promising relationship could be interdicted by a thing such as physical attractiveness, which would be completely irrelevant if not for hormones.
What do y'all think about anything I've said here?
Sometime over winter break I wrote an entry about balance with everything in my life at this point. I admitted that academics have been really my only focus since Janina and I broke up. I wondered if I would later regret that fact. After talking to a few people about that same topic this past weekend, I do feel like I'm annoyed at how I allowed academics to prevail at the expense of everything else for the majority of my time here. After becoming single in Oct 2004, I've only met one girl who I thought I'd like to perhaps eventually look into a relationship with. We knew each other for most of the 10 wk stretch we spent at Cornell in summer 2005, and I thought we really had a great time. I don't think I'm such a bad guy with regards to these matters. I'm always completely honest and upfront about what I think. We briefly touched on the relationship issue last fall, but the timing wasn't right for both of us to be thorough about how we felt. Finally, a couple nights ago, we actually were complete in our descriptions about how we felt. We both admitted that we enjoyed hanging out together and thought we could have a lot of nice conversations on a multifarious range of topics. However, we also admitted that perhaps there were other people in the world who each of us was more attracted to. We touched on that topic of attractiveness for a while... just as a general topic.
How big of a role should physical attraction play in a relationship? Objectively, if there's anything that would be holding us back from thinking a relationship might be an interesting thing to pursue if the circumstances were right, I think that physical attraction issue is it. We seemed to settle on the fact that it's a bit of a silly thing to let physical attraction drive your relationship or perhaps even prevent it altogether. I was honest with her and told her that physical attraction (if it's there) wears off REALLY fast anyway. Once you get to know someone, you really are attracted to other things about that person, you get used to how that person looks, and you really don't think about it. I just think it's inane that a potentially very promising relationship could be interdicted by a thing such as physical attractiveness, which would be completely irrelevant if not for hormones.
What do y'all think about anything I've said here?