separation
This is definitely not a post of sunshine and puppies...although if you would like to send me some that would be awesome!
Ugh. So it seems like people around me are getting separated left and right. It started with my friend J and her hubby M, she says it was probably the best decision she's made in a while...definitely less stressful for her right now. They separated in the week before their second anniversary.
My cousin T and his wife A separated last week. She was the one that wanted the separation, and the reason I've heard (which kinda bothers me a bit) is that he doesn't want to party every night and she does. Whether that's true or not I'm not sure, but there have been many comments made about the fact that it's a good thing my aunt and uncle love taking care of their granddaughter (2 in Oct), so that A&T don't/didn't have to change their lifestyle.
Now my cousin J is looking to separate from her hubby M, her reason is way more reasonable-he's been verbally abusing her pretty much since they got married 4 or 5 years ago. Everything came to a head last week and they had a big talk and he was being nice, that lasted less than a week. The big problem is that yesterday she told her mother, who I'm currently living with, about her decision to move out and it sounded like she had all her ducks in a row. She had already stopped direct deposit for her next paycheck, a big deal when she's the one supporting them all financially, and looked at apartments. Last night she was supposed to hear about whether or not she got the apartment, and we're all a little stressed out about the fact that we haven't heard from her since yesterday. She was supposed to work today and we figured she would call on her way to work, but she didn't and we don't really have any contact information for coworkers and aren't really sure where she was even supposed to work today. All of this is compounded by the fact that they live near Orlando and we're here in VT, and there is her son to consider also. As far as we know he's never gotten physical with her...but if he found out before she was actually moved out who knows how he would react with either her or their son. I would rather not have such a great imagination right now:( So, if anyone reads this please keep her in your thoughts and if you follow any religion please send a prayer to your deity or deities of choice. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed.