Uncomfortable Shoes
I have a very close friend.
and although she is extremely smart and independant, at heart, she is very emotional.
Time and time again, nudges out the suggestion that sometimes i am hot and cold switch. that my personality keeps going AC/DC, and hence she can never predict how i am going to act/react. as a result of this, i am inclined to treat her well one day, and well, not so well another day.
so the discord occurs where even though i care for her deeply, it doesnt show in my actions.
i reason that because i DO care for her, i don't need to worry about her not knowing. That being a best friend of mine, she automatically knows that i care and will always be there for me.
hence i reason that she is able to take the good and the bad that i throw to her. for what is friendship without forgiveness?
but just because we are forgiven, it does not absolve the fact that we are wrong, or that we have made a mistake. increasingly, there is a larger and larger grey area when it comes to right and wrong.
When we are rude to somebody,we can laugh it off later as having had a bad day, maybe you're frustrated. however, since when was it ok in ANY circumstance to have bad manners?
As a child, breaking a promise was one of the worst things you could do. the act of keeping a promise taught you how to be dependable no matter what the circumstance (not that the stakes were very high back then), and having a promise made to you inately taught you HOW to trust. As we get older, and have different priorities, the value and conditions of a promise become fluid.
People go to court everyday to defend broken promises.
it never occured to me that i could lose her friendship until i thought about letting go of another friendship. a friendship where the tables were turned and i was given similar shoes to hers.
and although she is extremely smart and independant, at heart, she is very emotional.
Time and time again, nudges out the suggestion that sometimes i am hot and cold switch. that my personality keeps going AC/DC, and hence she can never predict how i am going to act/react. as a result of this, i am inclined to treat her well one day, and well, not so well another day.
so the discord occurs where even though i care for her deeply, it doesnt show in my actions.
i reason that because i DO care for her, i don't need to worry about her not knowing. That being a best friend of mine, she automatically knows that i care and will always be there for me.
hence i reason that she is able to take the good and the bad that i throw to her. for what is friendship without forgiveness?
but just because we are forgiven, it does not absolve the fact that we are wrong, or that we have made a mistake. increasingly, there is a larger and larger grey area when it comes to right and wrong.
When we are rude to somebody,we can laugh it off later as having had a bad day, maybe you're frustrated. however, since when was it ok in ANY circumstance to have bad manners?
As a child, breaking a promise was one of the worst things you could do. the act of keeping a promise taught you how to be dependable no matter what the circumstance (not that the stakes were very high back then), and having a promise made to you inately taught you HOW to trust. As we get older, and have different priorities, the value and conditions of a promise become fluid.
People go to court everyday to defend broken promises.
it never occured to me that i could lose her friendship until i thought about letting go of another friendship. a friendship where the tables were turned and i was given similar shoes to hers.