Should I?
So, easing myself back into the dating game after firing the last lame I had on the roster has been a challenge since I'm never still enough to really get into the swing of things.
However, that should soon change. In the mean time, I am trying to figure out where I stand on all of this and how I should go about things when I do start dating.
After being heavily influenced by pop culture (MTV, Ciara, etc.) my question is,
Should I Date Like A Guy?
Often, the ladies wait around for a guy to ask her out and then hope for the best. I don't really have time to do that dance. I don't like the way it leaves me in a place that requires I be something of a bystander in my own love life. Plus, I usually end up getting serious with a guy once I start dating him and I think it's because of my approach. So, I'm changing the game. I just don't know how much yet.
My Plan so far is this:
Go out as much as possible
Flirt my @55 off
Take every number given out
Give out my business card like water
Be very honest up front when I am no longer interested in talking to a guy
Refuse to be serious / monogamous with anyone before at least two months.
Do not go "casual" with anyone. Only go on real, bona-fide dates.
Quickly eliminate anyone who either a)Has no chance of measuring up to "The Standard" or b) Can serve no purpose (like mechanics, folks with discounts to goods/services I need, guys who can fix things or will do heavy lifting, etc.)
So, this may not sound like a "guys" approach, but it is more aggressive and that's what I need right now. We're taking a very "no nonsense" approach to things and seeing how that works.
Suggestions and critiques are welcomed.
However, that should soon change. In the mean time, I am trying to figure out where I stand on all of this and how I should go about things when I do start dating.
After being heavily influenced by pop culture (MTV, Ciara, etc.) my question is,
Should I Date Like A Guy?
Often, the ladies wait around for a guy to ask her out and then hope for the best. I don't really have time to do that dance. I don't like the way it leaves me in a place that requires I be something of a bystander in my own love life. Plus, I usually end up getting serious with a guy once I start dating him and I think it's because of my approach. So, I'm changing the game. I just don't know how much yet.
My Plan so far is this:
Go out as much as possible
Flirt my @55 off
Take every number given out
Give out my business card like water
Be very honest up front when I am no longer interested in talking to a guy
Refuse to be serious / monogamous with anyone before at least two months.
Do not go "casual" with anyone. Only go on real, bona-fide dates.
Quickly eliminate anyone who either a)Has no chance of measuring up to "The Standard" or b) Can serve no purpose (like mechanics, folks with discounts to goods/services I need, guys who can fix things or will do heavy lifting, etc.)
So, this may not sound like a "guys" approach, but it is more aggressive and that's what I need right now. We're taking a very "no nonsense" approach to things and seeing how that works.
Suggestions and critiques are welcomed.