Big News brings me back to LJ
I haven't had much to say lately...nothing that's worth sharing...a little belly aching, a lot of self loathing...you know the kind of stuff you're all used to but don't want to read...
But now I have joyous news to share. No there isn't a Baby J on the way (yet)...this is news for Rose and ABNS (and no there isn't a little Rose Bud on the way either.) The exciting news is that ABNS (newly nicknamed Q - she's always hated the nickname ABNS despite it's cleverness) has popped the question and Rose bears the ring which etiquette refers to as a contractual agreement (meaning that when a couple splits post engagement pre-wedding the ex-bride-to-be should rightfully return the ring because she is breaking the contractual agreement to marry the ex-groom). Unfortunately Rose let days pass before she called to tell me and I found out instead in a freakin email quiz/forward she sent around. I got over my diss when we did speak and she told the story of the romantic valentine's night that sealed the deal.
What would a live journal entry be without the internal dilemma...so Rose is proud of her ring and she and Q are using this as an opportunity to really proclaim their relationship to any gay-naysayers who figured this was a phase or a relationship less significant than the hetero-relationships of Rose's sisters, or Q's married and even more quickly divorced sister. Rose wants people to know she's wearing a ring because it means she's in a loving committed relationship, but Rose is saying, "I got a ring" and not sticking to those traditional words, "I got engaged!" With this Rose expressed some distress at the fact that people were not asking to see "the ring." I reminded Rose that sometimes people need labels labels labels and when things (in this case rings) don't fit into the labels they're used to, those same people don't know how to function. Basically, people always ask to see a young woman's engagement thing...but they don't know to ask to see a young woman's ring that is a symbol of two people's comittment to having a long term relationship with one another. Not everyone can be as naturally open minded as this writer or the live journal readers...well they can be but they're not.
Rose says the next question everyone asks them and perhaps you are thinking it also, is "So what's the next step?" Admittedly I asked...will there be a wedding? (not right away) Will Q be getting a ring too? (Yes) Will I be asked to do a reading at the ceremony? Rose isn't sure exactly what the next step will be or when it will be taken. The two went to apply for Domestic Partnership here in Suffolk County and that seems like a nice step in the right direction....
And most importantly, will I be asked to do a reading at the ceremony...who knows...but will I ask to see "the ring" - HELL YEAH!
CONGRATULATIONS TO ROSE AND Q!
But now I have joyous news to share. No there isn't a Baby J on the way (yet)...this is news for Rose and ABNS (and no there isn't a little Rose Bud on the way either.) The exciting news is that ABNS (newly nicknamed Q - she's always hated the nickname ABNS despite it's cleverness) has popped the question and Rose bears the ring which etiquette refers to as a contractual agreement (meaning that when a couple splits post engagement pre-wedding the ex-bride-to-be should rightfully return the ring because she is breaking the contractual agreement to marry the ex-groom). Unfortunately Rose let days pass before she called to tell me and I found out instead in a freakin email quiz/forward she sent around. I got over my diss when we did speak and she told the story of the romantic valentine's night that sealed the deal.
What would a live journal entry be without the internal dilemma...so Rose is proud of her ring and she and Q are using this as an opportunity to really proclaim their relationship to any gay-naysayers who figured this was a phase or a relationship less significant than the hetero-relationships of Rose's sisters, or Q's married and even more quickly divorced sister. Rose wants people to know she's wearing a ring because it means she's in a loving committed relationship, but Rose is saying, "I got a ring" and not sticking to those traditional words, "I got engaged!" With this Rose expressed some distress at the fact that people were not asking to see "the ring." I reminded Rose that sometimes people need labels labels labels and when things (in this case rings) don't fit into the labels they're used to, those same people don't know how to function. Basically, people always ask to see a young woman's engagement thing...but they don't know to ask to see a young woman's ring that is a symbol of two people's comittment to having a long term relationship with one another. Not everyone can be as naturally open minded as this writer or the live journal readers...well they can be but they're not.
Rose says the next question everyone asks them and perhaps you are thinking it also, is "So what's the next step?" Admittedly I asked...will there be a wedding? (not right away) Will Q be getting a ring too? (Yes) Will I be asked to do a reading at the ceremony? Rose isn't sure exactly what the next step will be or when it will be taken. The two went to apply for Domestic Partnership here in Suffolk County and that seems like a nice step in the right direction....
And most importantly, will I be asked to do a reading at the ceremony...who knows...but will I ask to see "the ring" - HELL YEAH!
CONGRATULATIONS TO ROSE AND Q!