Advent of a second child in the ASD household

[msagara]

I have written a lot about my older son, and very little about my younger son. This is in part because I didn’t start writing these posts until the oldest was old enough to give me what I felt was informed consent

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[lyssabits]

I'm hoping that my son, now two, will be sorta used to having another person in the house when his sister arrives in October, since I've been doing daycare for an another girl since he was a few months old. He never minds when Charlotte cries. Sometimes, he thinks it's funny. *sigh* On the other hand, he definitely gets jealous. He tries to pull her out of my lap if I hold her, so I know he won't be totally cool with the new baby.

As someone who has a twin sister, and a 7-years-younger brother, I'm firmly in the camp of shorter gaps being better. I never had my parents' sole attention since I had a twin, but my relationship with my brother is practically non-existant, since he's so much younger. And I remember how annoying I found him my entire childhood, because he was always breaking my stuff and following me and my friends around.

I imagine shorter gaps is harder on parents, but not always. All the baby-proofing is in place for my son now, so when the new baby is big enough to get into trouble we won't have to worry about it. I can imagine being irritated if I'd have had to put it all back up again. And I'm kinda used to just not sleeping. ;) Going back to an infant's schedule after finally getting full nights of sleep again might have ben too painful to handle.