Hey, sorry, Just posted accidentally under anonymous!
-------------- Hey, hon. That sounds an awful lot like Modern Life and the Daily Struggle.
Modern mum, modern wife. Modern-day woman. A modern tale of fleeting moments, both precious and too few, of time and times lost or past, and of bitter or bittersweet hindsight.
*hugs*
Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing my life in a rear-view mirror. or through the window of a speeding train. Other times I'm hearing things underwater. It's not easy.
Admittedly, I'm not a career woman, but I am a working wife and mother and I often regret the times I'm apart from my family. But my personal wellbeing and my desire to grow and accomplish for myself is also important. My contribution matters not only in my home but outside of it. (And my sanity, which remains intact *because* I take little pockets of time for myself.)
My mother was a stay-at-home mom and I am so grateful that she was both able and willing to do so. I started out like-minded, and I stayed home until my little one needed more than I alone could provide for her developmental needs. But when she went to nursery, I went back to work. I know that showing her a commitment to others, determination and a good work ethic will help her grow, too. I hope it will also show her that independence (to a degree) in a marriage is possible and that striving for excellence is a wonderful goal.
I don't know what you do, careerwise, or how often or long you are apart from your loved ones, but as long as they are still priorities in your life and you make sure that they know that, it'll work out in the end.
Life's voices do indeed carry us along, propel us forward, hold us back, push us down and lift us up. Like any other words, it's up to us how we allow them to affect us. And goodness knows there will be times we allow them to overwhelm or cripple us.
None of us is perfect and there will always be someone who appears to be doing it all. I guarantee that they, too, have regrets, worries and voices niggling in their minds. And perhaps a bit of envy when they look at *your* life from the other side of the fence.
Try to make the most of your strengths and learn from your weaknesses, lean on your family and friends for emotional support but make sure they understand your need for 'ME' moments, whatever yours may be.
RE: Modern LifemrstottenOctober 8 2019, 07:32:35 UTC
This is such a wonderful reply thank you so much for not only taking the time to read but also to share.
I spent most of my childhood being bullied. I was the quiet one who likes reading and school but I also came from an area that was classed as economically deprived and teachers didn’t want to get my hopes up about being smart meaning getting out or up. Funnily enough although I always had ok jobs And my hubby and I worked hard I never cared that much about work until after my son. We tried for him for seven years and my only ambition was to have him. When I had him the other voices in my head started. Tellling me to be more for him. So I totally agree with what you are saying about lessons you are teaching your daughter
the funny thing is as although that drove me at first I now love my job and it’s nuts the guilt woman go through. On both sides my friend is a stay at home mum and is constantly challenged on her choices. I’m a working mum and always challenged on mine it’s like people forget equality is about us being allowed to make those choices.
The voices and things that happened over the years drove us on. I own and run a small IT firm and I love it but it’s always a challenge. Stakeholders and employees and I spend usually at least two days a week in London (I live in Glasgow) which then leads to guilt as I’m away it just becomes a spiral
I totally agree with your words on looking at your life on a speeding train. This topic, this week fitted my life. It’s been a week where nothing seems right and there is no time for anything. I was actuallly on my phone posting a bye when this came out instead.
No matter how hard we try it seems as if sometimes we are failing at every hands turn and it’s always good to know that we aren’t alone in this. That this is life for people and what we have to do is push through and listen to our kinder inside voices and the outside voices that support us through this
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Hey, hon. That sounds an awful lot like Modern Life and the Daily Struggle.
Modern mum, modern wife. Modern-day woman. A modern tale of fleeting moments, both precious and too few, of time and times lost or past, and of bitter or bittersweet hindsight.
*hugs*
Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing my life in a rear-view mirror. or through the window of a speeding train. Other times I'm hearing things underwater. It's not easy.
Admittedly, I'm not a career woman, but I am a working wife and mother and I often regret the times I'm apart from my family. But my personal wellbeing and my desire to grow and accomplish for myself is also important. My contribution matters not only in my home but outside of it. (And my sanity, which remains intact *because* I take little pockets of time for myself.)
My mother was a stay-at-home mom and I am so grateful that she was both able and willing to do so. I started out like-minded, and I stayed home until my little one needed more than I alone could provide for her developmental needs. But when she went to nursery, I went back to work. I know that showing her a commitment to others, determination and a good work ethic will help her grow, too. I hope it will also show her that independence (to a degree) in a marriage is possible and that striving for excellence is a wonderful goal.
I don't know what you do, careerwise, or how often or long you are apart from your loved ones, but as long as they are still priorities in your life and you make sure that they know that, it'll work out in the end.
Life's voices do indeed carry us along, propel us forward, hold us back, push us down and lift us up. Like any other words, it's up to us how we allow them to affect us. And goodness knows there will be times we allow them to overwhelm or cripple us.
None of us is perfect and there will always be someone who appears to be doing it all. I guarantee that they, too, have regrets, worries and voices niggling in their minds. And perhaps a bit of envy when they look at *your* life from the other side of the fence.
Try to make the most of your strengths and learn from your weaknesses, lean on your family and friends for emotional support but make sure they understand your need for 'ME' moments, whatever yours may be.
Hang in there.
And hey, soapbox is all yours now :P
Best,
Shay x
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I spent most of my childhood being bullied. I was the quiet one who likes reading and school but I also came from an area that was classed as economically deprived and teachers didn’t want to get my hopes up about being smart meaning getting out or up. Funnily enough although I always had ok jobs And my hubby and I worked hard I never cared that much about work until after my son. We tried for him for seven years and my only ambition was to have him. When I had him the other voices in my head started. Tellling me to be more for him. So I totally agree with what you are saying about lessons you are teaching your daughter
the funny thing is as although that drove me at first I now love my job and it’s nuts the guilt woman go through. On both sides my friend is a stay at home mum and is constantly challenged on her choices. I’m a working mum and always challenged on mine it’s like people forget equality is about us being allowed to make those choices.
The voices and things that happened over the years drove us on. I own and run a small IT firm and I love it but it’s always a challenge. Stakeholders and employees and I spend usually at least two days a week in London (I live in Glasgow) which then leads to guilt as I’m away it just becomes a spiral
I totally agree with your words on looking at your life on a speeding train. This topic, this week fitted my life. It’s been a week where nothing seems right and there is no time for anything. I was actuallly on my phone posting a bye when this came out instead.
No matter how hard we try it seems as if sometimes we are failing at every hands turn and it’s always good to know that we aren’t alone in this. That this is life for people and what we have to do is push through and listen to our kinder inside voices and the outside voices that support us through this
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