Don't Bother with Being Bothered
We've all been upset at one point or another. Erased data on a computer, a bad breakup, or losing something sentimental can piss us off. It is, to some extent, a natural reaction to be upset when things go wrong. If we could just leave it at that, a simple reaction to stimulus, the world would be a much better place. But, we don't live in an ideal world, and people don't always handle things ideally. The problem occurs when something goes beyond the point of irritating and enters the realm of upsetting. People let these things gnaw away at them. Sometimes it won't even be a catastrophic event. Sometimes the most trivial of things will do it. Regardless of the poison, the outcome is the same: it bothers us. When we are troubled by an event long past, we can be considered bothered. Things that bother us can inflict drastic changes in our handling of the daily routine of our lives. When we let things bother us, our patience becomes much shorter, our judgment is thrown off, and we tend to act more aggressively among other things. Not only does this affect us internally, it also affects our relationships with those around us. How do you feel when someone is very curt with you for no obvious reason? Any prying results in the age old "nothing's wrong" or "I don't want to talk about it". There's essentially nothing we can do when someone is already in this state, except take a bit of mental (and hopefully not physical) abuse.
Why are we ruled by these negative emotions? Good question. Most people don't think about it. When someone gets upset, that's it. They're upset. They don't think about the cause and effect pattern that led them to their present dilemma. They just know how they feel and that's it. People suffer needlessly. There’s enough suffering out there in the world already without people inflicting it upon themselves. The key idea that people miss is to control their emotions, not let their emotions control them. Anyone can do it. There is a lot of helpful information out there regarding this subject. Anyone who has ever been upset can benefit from checking this site on Emotional Intelligence out: http://eqi.org/ . No cult stuff, no drugs, just pure and simple logic. If Emotional Intelligence isn't for you, another alternative is meditation. Meditation can also be a big help for those of us dealing with great deals of stress. Check out http://www.wildmind.org/ . Don't let the things that you should be enjoying in life bother you any longer.
...And please, stop yelling at me.
'Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.'
William James
Why are we ruled by these negative emotions? Good question. Most people don't think about it. When someone gets upset, that's it. They're upset. They don't think about the cause and effect pattern that led them to their present dilemma. They just know how they feel and that's it. People suffer needlessly. There’s enough suffering out there in the world already without people inflicting it upon themselves. The key idea that people miss is to control their emotions, not let their emotions control them. Anyone can do it. There is a lot of helpful information out there regarding this subject. Anyone who has ever been upset can benefit from checking this site on Emotional Intelligence out: http://eqi.org/ . No cult stuff, no drugs, just pure and simple logic. If Emotional Intelligence isn't for you, another alternative is meditation. Meditation can also be a big help for those of us dealing with great deals of stress. Check out http://www.wildmind.org/ . Don't let the things that you should be enjoying in life bother you any longer.
...And please, stop yelling at me.
'Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.'
William James