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Hey, been QUITE the time away from here! Gotta post more!
Gavs is doing great per usual; still not showing signs of walking. Talks a *little* but still a lil' behind there too. I ain't too worried; he's INCREDIBLY advanced otherwise. This kid can throw a ball so well it's like watching one of Pedro's 97 heaters, lol! RIGHT into the glove!! :) He's just so into LOOKING at EVERYthing. Really into details and feeling things; ever since Grampaa showed him how to rub the corsicun mint in the garden, he's been smelling everything. Plus, he's shown him how to even out the mulch in the yard/garden, lol, so everything Gavs sees as "rub-able" he goes to it. Sand, dirt in general, rocks, people....lol.......
That's one thing Ilya and I have REALLY noticed. My dad really has got Gavs in a chokehold when it comes to *learning*. Kind of a silly way of saying it, but it's true. EVERYthing my dad shows him, says, does, Gavvy imitates, emulates, or tries to do. It's been said by my mom plenty of times that my dad has got some sort of "special power" when it comes to things psychically, or things in general. He's got something going on big time. It's not just that Gavvy likes him, he's in TUNE with him, incredibly and almost disturbingly so. But it's great; I'm so glad that Gavs is so damned EAGER to learn. Out of nowhere he said "library" ("li-ba-ee") to Daddy in the car on their way there; I know he wasn't shitting me when he told me about it, because in talking about it, Gavs said it AGAIN on the couch. Hasn't said it since, but as Gavs HIMSELF put it in ljkids (yea you lil bugger, I read what you write!;)) "Gotta make 'em WANT it." Lol....
So even with some of the skills he has yet to accomplish, I take the good very easily. He's just so dang smart, and I ain't just sayin' that through the whole "I'm his unbiased Momma" kind of philosophy; I know when to call ANYONE on their faults/skills/strengths, etc. I'm very able to discipline him, which is something I've had to do lately (he's started biiiiiiiting.... *sighs and groans*.... though I don't think it's a full intent, he'll throw his head down on my arm in woe over frustration at not getting to DO something, then takes the opportunity rather than making it his original plan... STILL, he "gets the box" persay, lol. He finds that after he does things like this that he doesn't LIKE it when Momma or Daddy puts him down and says "I love you, but you need to sit by yourself right now" and gets ignored, lol)..... I haqte it when parents re-fucking-FUSE to admit their kids faults or bad behaviour. That's the one thing I'm gonna seethe about if I start working at The Growing Tree; their policy is that they don't even use time outs anymore; they remove the child from the things they cause in a bad way, then either give them a book or outright SIT with them.
Come ON. You may as well tell the kid "Wow, you need some attention! After all, that's why you did it, I may as well ENDORSE it." Geezus Criminy. The philosophies of "don't say negative comments like 'no's, 'don't' etc" follow through there too, something that bugged the crap out of me in college. I mean, YES; 'NO' is overused and negative commentary shouldn't be the main thing you do with kids. But for hell's sake, what is ultimately WRONG with it if it's not overused? *Groans*. And we wonder why kids nowadays feel as if they're entitled to not just act like idiots, but have expensive cars at their will, or have fully paid EVERYTHING in life.
I'm rambling, but like I'd said, haven't writ in here in some time. ;)
Gavs is doing great per usual; still not showing signs of walking. Talks a *little* but still a lil' behind there too. I ain't too worried; he's INCREDIBLY advanced otherwise. This kid can throw a ball so well it's like watching one of Pedro's 97 heaters, lol! RIGHT into the glove!! :) He's just so into LOOKING at EVERYthing. Really into details and feeling things; ever since Grampaa showed him how to rub the corsicun mint in the garden, he's been smelling everything. Plus, he's shown him how to even out the mulch in the yard/garden, lol, so everything Gavs sees as "rub-able" he goes to it. Sand, dirt in general, rocks, people....lol.......
That's one thing Ilya and I have REALLY noticed. My dad really has got Gavs in a chokehold when it comes to *learning*. Kind of a silly way of saying it, but it's true. EVERYthing my dad shows him, says, does, Gavvy imitates, emulates, or tries to do. It's been said by my mom plenty of times that my dad has got some sort of "special power" when it comes to things psychically, or things in general. He's got something going on big time. It's not just that Gavvy likes him, he's in TUNE with him, incredibly and almost disturbingly so. But it's great; I'm so glad that Gavs is so damned EAGER to learn. Out of nowhere he said "library" ("li-ba-ee") to Daddy in the car on their way there; I know he wasn't shitting me when he told me about it, because in talking about it, Gavs said it AGAIN on the couch. Hasn't said it since, but as Gavs HIMSELF put it in ljkids (yea you lil bugger, I read what you write!;)) "Gotta make 'em WANT it." Lol....
So even with some of the skills he has yet to accomplish, I take the good very easily. He's just so dang smart, and I ain't just sayin' that through the whole "I'm his unbiased Momma" kind of philosophy; I know when to call ANYONE on their faults/skills/strengths, etc. I'm very able to discipline him, which is something I've had to do lately (he's started biiiiiiiting.... *sighs and groans*.... though I don't think it's a full intent, he'll throw his head down on my arm in woe over frustration at not getting to DO something, then takes the opportunity rather than making it his original plan... STILL, he "gets the box" persay, lol. He finds that after he does things like this that he doesn't LIKE it when Momma or Daddy puts him down and says "I love you, but you need to sit by yourself right now" and gets ignored, lol)..... I haqte it when parents re-fucking-FUSE to admit their kids faults or bad behaviour. That's the one thing I'm gonna seethe about if I start working at The Growing Tree; their policy is that they don't even use time outs anymore; they remove the child from the things they cause in a bad way, then either give them a book or outright SIT with them.
Come ON. You may as well tell the kid "Wow, you need some attention! After all, that's why you did it, I may as well ENDORSE it." Geezus Criminy. The philosophies of "don't say negative comments like 'no's, 'don't' etc" follow through there too, something that bugged the crap out of me in college. I mean, YES; 'NO' is overused and negative commentary shouldn't be the main thing you do with kids. But for hell's sake, what is ultimately WRONG with it if it's not overused? *Groans*. And we wonder why kids nowadays feel as if they're entitled to not just act like idiots, but have expensive cars at their will, or have fully paid EVERYTHING in life.
I'm rambling, but like I'd said, haven't writ in here in some time. ;)