use yer words
i'm trying to decide if this is a little too preachy and "lookithowgoodiamandyouarenot" to send.
Hey Shannon,
I'm not e-mailing you to call you a bunch of bad names, just to say that: what you did was shitty. If you were unhappy here you could have told us you wanted to move out and we would have let you, but leaving us a note on March 1st was a really indecent, unkind, selfish decision to make. We welcomed you into our home, shared our food and our time with you, and I think we deserved a little more respect than a note the day rent was due telling us you were leaving. You left four people with low incomes in a really tight spot. This doesn't make you the hero who triumphed over a bunch of assholes, it makes you the person who wasn't brave enough to act like an adult and give notice. It makes you the person who left a bunch of people to take responsibility for something you were not mature enough to deal with.
As I said, we wouldn't have had any harsh feelings if you had told us you wanted to move out around the time you deleted all of us from facebook (a couple of weeks ago, maybe?) We would have been irritated, perhaps, but at least two weeks would have given us time to find someone new. As I recall we were never unkind to you, we tried to make you feel welcome, and I'm sorry if you felt differently- you never spoke to any of us about any issues you might have been having so we had no idea. I thought you were a pretty decent person and I enjoyed hanging out and talking to you, so I'm confused about why you thought it would be ok to treat us in such an unkind, low manner. If we gave you any reason to think we would have acted unkindly to you giving notice, I'm sorry for that as well, but you treated us very unfairly and are forcing us to pay money we don't really have because you decided running away was easier than dealing with the situation. I hope you find the strength in yourself to deal with future situations in ways that are not harmful to others because perpetuating a cycle like this hurts everyone. Like it or not you acted in a really unkind, unjust, cowardly way and for that, I feel sorry- I would rather be in my position than yours in this situation.
Take care and I hope the city treats you kindly for the rest of your stay,
Siobhan
Hey Shannon,
I'm not e-mailing you to call you a bunch of bad names, just to say that: what you did was shitty. If you were unhappy here you could have told us you wanted to move out and we would have let you, but leaving us a note on March 1st was a really indecent, unkind, selfish decision to make. We welcomed you into our home, shared our food and our time with you, and I think we deserved a little more respect than a note the day rent was due telling us you were leaving. You left four people with low incomes in a really tight spot. This doesn't make you the hero who triumphed over a bunch of assholes, it makes you the person who wasn't brave enough to act like an adult and give notice. It makes you the person who left a bunch of people to take responsibility for something you were not mature enough to deal with.
As I said, we wouldn't have had any harsh feelings if you had told us you wanted to move out around the time you deleted all of us from facebook (a couple of weeks ago, maybe?) We would have been irritated, perhaps, but at least two weeks would have given us time to find someone new. As I recall we were never unkind to you, we tried to make you feel welcome, and I'm sorry if you felt differently- you never spoke to any of us about any issues you might have been having so we had no idea. I thought you were a pretty decent person and I enjoyed hanging out and talking to you, so I'm confused about why you thought it would be ok to treat us in such an unkind, low manner. If we gave you any reason to think we would have acted unkindly to you giving notice, I'm sorry for that as well, but you treated us very unfairly and are forcing us to pay money we don't really have because you decided running away was easier than dealing with the situation. I hope you find the strength in yourself to deal with future situations in ways that are not harmful to others because perpetuating a cycle like this hurts everyone. Like it or not you acted in a really unkind, unjust, cowardly way and for that, I feel sorry- I would rather be in my position than yours in this situation.
Take care and I hope the city treats you kindly for the rest of your stay,
Siobhan