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People around here often throw around the word love so here you go, the following are passages from "The Art of Loving" by Eric Fromm:
"Immature Love follows the the principle: 'I love you because I need you.' while Mature love follows the principle: 'I need you because I love you.'"
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling - it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?"
Think about that last one for a bit. Love is a promise not so much a feeling. If it were a feeling it could just leave like sadness or anger and you can't control how long you will feel that. But if you think of love as a promise you can promise to love someone forever, if you "fall out of love" with them that's like breaking the promise.
"Immature Love follows the the principle: 'I love you because I need you.' while Mature love follows the principle: 'I need you because I love you.'"
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling - it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?"
Think about that last one for a bit. Love is a promise not so much a feeling. If it were a feeling it could just leave like sadness or anger and you can't control how long you will feel that. But if you think of love as a promise you can promise to love someone forever, if you "fall out of love" with them that's like breaking the promise.