friendships
how do you say to a friend that she needs to lighten up, because she is making hanging out with her exhausting because I am having to always watch what I say because she thinks that I am always insulting her and making jabs at her. it is always tiny things, like the way I am standing, or the way I say something, or a compliment is a veiled ( Read more... )
A really dear friend of mine is going through a pretty shitty dose of serious depression lately. For the last year no matter what I say, she gets offended.
The other night she said "I feel to old to be dealing with this" - this is something she says a lot. She has these really unrealistic ideas of adulthood, that she'll never attain because they're completely opposite to her nature. I tried to show her that she's being too hard on herself and that she's perfectly fine and she wigged out. got offline. bitched about the conversation on livejournal and took it as a complete insult. I have been walking on eggshells around her for a year and she actually projects her insecurities and problems on me. she tears me down to make herself feel better. it's so frustrating and after the other night i realized there is NOTHING i can do or say to help her out and she will continue to hurt me because she just needs someone to hurt. she's not going to look inside herself and see that SHE is the problem.
maybe not ever.
it sounds like your friend is exactly the same.
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