Good grief, Charlie's brown eye is sore and chapped
Forgiveness is a happening, and not a step. It is the mindfulness applied to our hurt. This happens, each at our own stage in the grieving process. The power to heal a wound, is evidence of the depths of our soul. A oyster forgives a grain of sand when it turns it to a pearl layer by layer, as a defense. The analogy being, that once we can transmute a past abuse, pain, abandonment, etc into a growth opportunity we more align with our whole self. The easier things come, and the more we handle any emergency that arises beyond control with poise. It is like the feeling of being ten feet tall, yet humble enough to make time to listen to someone vent what drama you are immune to.
One still has the subjectively outer ego driven view that a sense of forgiveness, or even release of resentment requires punishment, the other view is displaying a transcendence of the outer ego which does not implie annihilation of outer Ego. Yet that requirement of retribution is the same as saying "I don't have to change!"
Seeking to know retribution or punish others to have a sense of self satisfaction is self abuse and, or a violation of another in that we believe the same of them as ourselves and the return stings." If the eternal soul is something you abide in; you or those that have crossed your boundaries, and wounded you or your loved ones have to live with that eternally. Which is exactly why I believe reincarnation is definitely a fact of our species and Cosmic heritage.
Most importantly, strive to be attentive to your self and relive those hurts and offenses if that is helpful. Do this safely with a coach trusted friend, or accredited professional if needed.
Make it a child's game, cause what can you lose? Just don't expect miraculous result with half effort. You may just end up with a new wound. The scar of losing ability to heal yourself and the belief in the spontaneous joy of your own being would suck ass to find out you gained instead of letting past be past giving a squirt of bloody stool about.
Try and repeat the scene til it becomes so boring a story you'd rather retell it as a mocking parody, or reimagine events as if what happened spun a far different tone.
Allow yourself, the others involved to be heroic, or learn some valuable lesson that changes mankind forever, and accepting of yourself as a sometimes flawed mortal being, as well as allowing you or others their individual feelings and inclinations that can't threaten anyone's security.
In your mind empathizing on a deep/high level as to recognize they may have other life experiences they are working out subconsciously by projections into current affairs. Perhaps even roles were reversed in another life. Which may be uncomfortable but the script has to change if you don't want to direct or act in the same shitty product day to day. That may be the script of being hurt by their past loves, and comparison. Maybe they cheated? You are not the only one sausage, or tuna salad to the picnic. If you truly loved you may have to accept that seeing them happy and being completely themselves is their right and you revel in their pleasure. It should inspire your own. Or, leave them and forgive yourself for having different values. They made you who you are when you fell into a new companion. You are loved and you are lovable despite what you may assume to be truth, or what anyone else says.
Every truth seems only a fiction accepted deeply enough, and agreed to enough people with power and we all have a lot of communication power and choices we may not have slowed enough to respect. I do not however mean to regulate things further. That just presupposes no trust exists. Sometimes the further we get from divine universal Love, the more intensely rewarding to come back to it will be. I believe that and if I didn't think you, or anyone, even Hitler or Jeffery Dahmer deserves at least their own forgiveness I would not have began to write this. Really what could I gain? There are a quadrillion people trying to make money in self help literally doing so for the premise of helping themselves find noteriety or a payout. I realized five years ago that being happy is the best gift you could give anyone else in your life. If you don't feel so then you may find envy and resentment. Remember also this life and what you do in the present affects directly those others you are living. Some possibly simultaneous to this.
I am not a Doctor, or Educated formally which means I am not bound to defend my education expense, time, or business practice. I am learned, which contrasts to education simply through discernment. I did not have to trust another's accreditation and read the same books they adhere to, then perhaps develop my own theory. I just wish to heal others because I am also trying to heal myself. I have suffered greatly and believe the patterns can be reset.
Fear is a distortion of a universal law of respect. Look at that word. No pun intended; respect it. Re as in repeat. Spect as in vision. That is it's purpose. Take another look at what exactly you feel happened, and what is it really costing you if you are still alive. A loved one may pass, with disease or through tragedy but are you really that crucial to the function of the cosmos that you have to have it all just to your liking? Maybe they, or their soul had other intent that experience just wasn't fulfilling. Yet maybe they loved me you so much they took a while to remind you of their importance. Let the dead bury the dead and move on knowing you were blessed, because you saw lack before does not mean you can't remunerate in the abundance you did have. When was the last audit of that compared to your comiseration?
Being delicate, having self pity is healthy too in a way. Even if you are procrastinating at least being stressed says something is occurring in response. Those chemistry levels in your brain. They produce things that we can't explain really the function. Despite being uncomfortable, reducing action, and being polar opposite of what we believe are good states of being. Maybe correction happens in sleep during those dreams you find so weird? Tried to journal them? Maybe paint or doodle a scene of one? How did you learn dreaming anyway? Granted, likely with logic relying on that is slow and clunky verses dealing with problems of physical waking life by a means that doesn't inherently have the same rules. If you refrain from having your parents fix things then you can't blame 'God'. It Loves you enough to trust it gave all the elements you need to succeed and let's you do your thing.
You got this covered and some part of you knows exactly what to do. Ask thrice to be shown the way in divine Grace then eventually you may stumble there.
I really do forgive Hitler. I possibly was a Hebrew in a camp (reincarnationally). I bet I made a damn good lamp, and I venture the whole drama was symbolic of a different issue. One in our mass psyche. I think history, and others in our lives, the events we perceive, are a lesson. But what do you learn from taking apart the squeaky wheel? Why didn't anyone see why the squeakless wheel is so successful at non squeaking? What if your respsect perspective has been greased and you are being lead being mislead by the generally accepted concensus. I at least concede I may be off base before I argued. Really, I live another day likely before dying into eternal blackness if there is no metaphysical and Man and science being together for almost, 600 years if that have it all figured out cause they figure out how to look at really small stuff in a fish eye Len's glass. Ask and you find has a double meaning. Ask what disease kills a man, and a new one may be found. We need jobs so let's pull apart dead things that no longer have spirit and make use of our new toy. Yet same as looking at the Stars, there we will find new sets of symbolism that maybe lead us back to realizing interpretation of the first set was the same shit! As above, so below; right? Am I the only one in this thought process?
One still has the subjectively outer ego driven view that a sense of forgiveness, or even release of resentment requires punishment, the other view is displaying a transcendence of the outer ego which does not implie annihilation of outer Ego. Yet that requirement of retribution is the same as saying "I don't have to change!"
Seeking to know retribution or punish others to have a sense of self satisfaction is self abuse and, or a violation of another in that we believe the same of them as ourselves and the return stings." If the eternal soul is something you abide in; you or those that have crossed your boundaries, and wounded you or your loved ones have to live with that eternally. Which is exactly why I believe reincarnation is definitely a fact of our species and Cosmic heritage.
Most importantly, strive to be attentive to your self and relive those hurts and offenses if that is helpful. Do this safely with a coach trusted friend, or accredited professional if needed.
Make it a child's game, cause what can you lose? Just don't expect miraculous result with half effort. You may just end up with a new wound. The scar of losing ability to heal yourself and the belief in the spontaneous joy of your own being would suck ass to find out you gained instead of letting past be past giving a squirt of bloody stool about.
Try and repeat the scene til it becomes so boring a story you'd rather retell it as a mocking parody, or reimagine events as if what happened spun a far different tone.
Allow yourself, the others involved to be heroic, or learn some valuable lesson that changes mankind forever, and accepting of yourself as a sometimes flawed mortal being, as well as allowing you or others their individual feelings and inclinations that can't threaten anyone's security.
In your mind empathizing on a deep/high level as to recognize they may have other life experiences they are working out subconsciously by projections into current affairs. Perhaps even roles were reversed in another life. Which may be uncomfortable but the script has to change if you don't want to direct or act in the same shitty product day to day. That may be the script of being hurt by their past loves, and comparison. Maybe they cheated? You are not the only one sausage, or tuna salad to the picnic. If you truly loved you may have to accept that seeing them happy and being completely themselves is their right and you revel in their pleasure. It should inspire your own. Or, leave them and forgive yourself for having different values. They made you who you are when you fell into a new companion. You are loved and you are lovable despite what you may assume to be truth, or what anyone else says.
Every truth seems only a fiction accepted deeply enough, and agreed to enough people with power and we all have a lot of communication power and choices we may not have slowed enough to respect. I do not however mean to regulate things further. That just presupposes no trust exists. Sometimes the further we get from divine universal Love, the more intensely rewarding to come back to it will be. I believe that and if I didn't think you, or anyone, even Hitler or Jeffery Dahmer deserves at least their own forgiveness I would not have began to write this. Really what could I gain? There are a quadrillion people trying to make money in self help literally doing so for the premise of helping themselves find noteriety or a payout. I realized five years ago that being happy is the best gift you could give anyone else in your life. If you don't feel so then you may find envy and resentment. Remember also this life and what you do in the present affects directly those others you are living. Some possibly simultaneous to this.
I am not a Doctor, or Educated formally which means I am not bound to defend my education expense, time, or business practice. I am learned, which contrasts to education simply through discernment. I did not have to trust another's accreditation and read the same books they adhere to, then perhaps develop my own theory. I just wish to heal others because I am also trying to heal myself. I have suffered greatly and believe the patterns can be reset.
Fear is a distortion of a universal law of respect. Look at that word. No pun intended; respect it. Re as in repeat. Spect as in vision. That is it's purpose. Take another look at what exactly you feel happened, and what is it really costing you if you are still alive. A loved one may pass, with disease or through tragedy but are you really that crucial to the function of the cosmos that you have to have it all just to your liking? Maybe they, or their soul had other intent that experience just wasn't fulfilling. Yet maybe they loved me you so much they took a while to remind you of their importance. Let the dead bury the dead and move on knowing you were blessed, because you saw lack before does not mean you can't remunerate in the abundance you did have. When was the last audit of that compared to your comiseration?
Being delicate, having self pity is healthy too in a way. Even if you are procrastinating at least being stressed says something is occurring in response. Those chemistry levels in your brain. They produce things that we can't explain really the function. Despite being uncomfortable, reducing action, and being polar opposite of what we believe are good states of being. Maybe correction happens in sleep during those dreams you find so weird? Tried to journal them? Maybe paint or doodle a scene of one? How did you learn dreaming anyway? Granted, likely with logic relying on that is slow and clunky verses dealing with problems of physical waking life by a means that doesn't inherently have the same rules. If you refrain from having your parents fix things then you can't blame 'God'. It Loves you enough to trust it gave all the elements you need to succeed and let's you do your thing.
You got this covered and some part of you knows exactly what to do. Ask thrice to be shown the way in divine Grace then eventually you may stumble there.
I really do forgive Hitler. I possibly was a Hebrew in a camp (reincarnationally). I bet I made a damn good lamp, and I venture the whole drama was symbolic of a different issue. One in our mass psyche. I think history, and others in our lives, the events we perceive, are a lesson. But what do you learn from taking apart the squeaky wheel? Why didn't anyone see why the squeakless wheel is so successful at non squeaking? What if your respsect perspective has been greased and you are being lead being mislead by the generally accepted concensus. I at least concede I may be off base before I argued. Really, I live another day likely before dying into eternal blackness if there is no metaphysical and Man and science being together for almost, 600 years if that have it all figured out cause they figure out how to look at really small stuff in a fish eye Len's glass. Ask and you find has a double meaning. Ask what disease kills a man, and a new one may be found. We need jobs so let's pull apart dead things that no longer have spirit and make use of our new toy. Yet same as looking at the Stars, there we will find new sets of symbolism that maybe lead us back to realizing interpretation of the first set was the same shit! As above, so below; right? Am I the only one in this thought process?