One more before the sandman comes
It's about that time for old me.
9:47pm EST, bedtime fast approaches.
This has been a day.
My views on friendship;
It is a marriage for me.
Better/worse, richer/poorer, sickness/health.
It is very close to unconditional, I love my friends, even if they make mistakes, but if they kick puppies, drown kittens, beat their children to bloody pulps or hit old people, all bets are off. I do have my lines drawn.
Differing opinions are healthy, because you never know how a friend can see your troubles through their eyes and maybe shed light where it wasn't before.
Similar opinions are of course, awesome, then there's no debates.
But agreeing to disagree has saved many friendships.
TRUST is HUGE.
I can't get by without it. And that's just like marriage, too, because once you've been hurt or betrayed, the next spouse pays for past mistakes...so my friends tend to have to earn it longer or harder than some.
But I work just as hard to earn and maintain trust in me.
I listen more than talk because sometimes that's all that's needed.
For me, my best friends and I can sit, in total silence for an hour, and I can walk away feeling like I just had the most fulfilling conversation.
There's no awkwardness, no judgement, no demands on time. If we don't see or talk to eachother for awhile, that's ok...because we can feel eachother in our hearts.
Loyalty. I will prove myself time and again, even when I don't have to.
There's nothing too big to ask, but true friends will know when to stop.
I give from my heart, with all my heart, even when it hurts sometimes, because I promised.
I have called you friend, now you know what it means for me.
I hope you don't feel any pressure to "live up" to anything, because there's not...I said no judgement, mostly unconditional other than the abuse thing, so I think since I've already called you out as my friend, then it's forever for me.
Good night.
9:47pm EST, bedtime fast approaches.
This has been a day.
My views on friendship;
It is a marriage for me.
Better/worse, richer/poorer, sickness/health.
It is very close to unconditional, I love my friends, even if they make mistakes, but if they kick puppies, drown kittens, beat their children to bloody pulps or hit old people, all bets are off. I do have my lines drawn.
Differing opinions are healthy, because you never know how a friend can see your troubles through their eyes and maybe shed light where it wasn't before.
Similar opinions are of course, awesome, then there's no debates.
But agreeing to disagree has saved many friendships.
TRUST is HUGE.
I can't get by without it. And that's just like marriage, too, because once you've been hurt or betrayed, the next spouse pays for past mistakes...so my friends tend to have to earn it longer or harder than some.
But I work just as hard to earn and maintain trust in me.
I listen more than talk because sometimes that's all that's needed.
For me, my best friends and I can sit, in total silence for an hour, and I can walk away feeling like I just had the most fulfilling conversation.
There's no awkwardness, no judgement, no demands on time. If we don't see or talk to eachother for awhile, that's ok...because we can feel eachother in our hearts.
Loyalty. I will prove myself time and again, even when I don't have to.
There's nothing too big to ask, but true friends will know when to stop.
I give from my heart, with all my heart, even when it hurts sometimes, because I promised.
I have called you friend, now you know what it means for me.
I hope you don't feel any pressure to "live up" to anything, because there's not...I said no judgement, mostly unconditional other than the abuse thing, so I think since I've already called you out as my friend, then it's forever for me.
Good night.