I wish I had the guts to send this to him!
Dear "what's-his-face,"
You know what I think? I think you really tried to be a nice, charming guy, but you just couldn't keep it up. You're right, people change for a little bit and then they change right back. Kinda like you did.
You say you are not like other guys. Well, no, you are worse, and do you know why? Because you pretend to be a nice guy, and then some naive innocent girl actually believes your act, and she gives herself over to you based on that assumption. It's manipulative. It gets you what you want at the expense of another human being.
You know why most girls don't let their boyfriends go away with "the guys?" It's because they don't trust them. Well, I trusted you. And then you went off signing girls' boobs and sticking your head between some girl's legs right in front of me. And you wonder why I stopped being happy around you? Do you know how hard it is to put on a happy face around a guy who you know is not trustworthy? Oh the guilt must have been horrible for you, poor baby...I know it must have been SO difficult for you to "cater to my needs" which included (gasp!) giving me a hug when I was crying rather than insulting me, or thinking before you speak so you would not say something extremely offensive and hurtful. Oh, I know, I was so damn needy! What was I thinking, expecting you to actually take my feelings into account before you spoke? Goodness, I know, I must have been so selfish. And the fact that I actually trusted you enough to confide in you? Oh, I know, I was being *horrible* by opening up to you and telling you things I don't normally tell people. I did not take into consideration the fact that you prefer to live in your bubble because you just plain can't handle hearing anything un-cheerful. You, you, you, you, you. Anyone who accuses someone else of being selfish, is usually the one who is being selfish. Oh, I know, how selfish was I to not hang out with you when I had homework to do! I was so selfish to go back to school! How horrible of me! I should have given that up and learned how to cook, right? Gotten some secretary type job and been a doting little wife who "knows her place," right?
And I was soooooooo selfish for not breaking up with you! How awful I was, actually thinking that you were with me because you wanted to be with me! I was so selfish for crying when you said cruel things to me! How dare I have done that?! How dare I have made you feel bad for saying those things?! I was so selfish for actually being human and having feelings! And I was so selfish for expecting you to realize that, since I was in recovery for an eating disorder, it was not ok for you to get on my case for eating certain things! I know, I asked a lot! I actually asked that you take my feelings into account before you spoke! How awful of me, right? What a huge request that was! How dare I have expected that when I told you certain things you said were hurtful, you would stop saying them? That was unreasonable. You're right, you should be able to say and do whatever you want without having to take anyone else's feelings into account.
Biggest mistake I made? I made the mistake, after about a year and half, of stooping to your level. Well, lesson learned. See ya!
You know what I think? I think you really tried to be a nice, charming guy, but you just couldn't keep it up. You're right, people change for a little bit and then they change right back. Kinda like you did.
You say you are not like other guys. Well, no, you are worse, and do you know why? Because you pretend to be a nice guy, and then some naive innocent girl actually believes your act, and she gives herself over to you based on that assumption. It's manipulative. It gets you what you want at the expense of another human being.
You know why most girls don't let their boyfriends go away with "the guys?" It's because they don't trust them. Well, I trusted you. And then you went off signing girls' boobs and sticking your head between some girl's legs right in front of me. And you wonder why I stopped being happy around you? Do you know how hard it is to put on a happy face around a guy who you know is not trustworthy? Oh the guilt must have been horrible for you, poor baby...I know it must have been SO difficult for you to "cater to my needs" which included (gasp!) giving me a hug when I was crying rather than insulting me, or thinking before you speak so you would not say something extremely offensive and hurtful. Oh, I know, I was so damn needy! What was I thinking, expecting you to actually take my feelings into account before you spoke? Goodness, I know, I must have been so selfish. And the fact that I actually trusted you enough to confide in you? Oh, I know, I was being *horrible* by opening up to you and telling you things I don't normally tell people. I did not take into consideration the fact that you prefer to live in your bubble because you just plain can't handle hearing anything un-cheerful. You, you, you, you, you. Anyone who accuses someone else of being selfish, is usually the one who is being selfish. Oh, I know, how selfish was I to not hang out with you when I had homework to do! I was so selfish to go back to school! How horrible of me! I should have given that up and learned how to cook, right? Gotten some secretary type job and been a doting little wife who "knows her place," right?
And I was soooooooo selfish for not breaking up with you! How awful I was, actually thinking that you were with me because you wanted to be with me! I was so selfish for crying when you said cruel things to me! How dare I have done that?! How dare I have made you feel bad for saying those things?! I was so selfish for actually being human and having feelings! And I was so selfish for expecting you to realize that, since I was in recovery for an eating disorder, it was not ok for you to get on my case for eating certain things! I know, I asked a lot! I actually asked that you take my feelings into account before you spoke! How awful of me, right? What a huge request that was! How dare I have expected that when I told you certain things you said were hurtful, you would stop saying them? That was unreasonable. You're right, you should be able to say and do whatever you want without having to take anyone else's feelings into account.
Biggest mistake I made? I made the mistake, after about a year and half, of stooping to your level. Well, lesson learned. See ya!