Happiness Myths & Singlehood
Came by this article on about happiness myths Vox ( http://www.vox.com/2015/6/2/8686191/happiness-myths ) & it made me think about how my own happiness expectations & standards have changed over the past decade
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I'm now 33 years old and quite single - after two shitty relationships I fairly thoroughly documented in my 20s (and you witnessed). Looking at my single life versus relationship life: if you assigned binary values to the days in those lives... 1, I'm happy; 0, I'm not happy ...I'd say the # of happy days occurred with greater frequency in my single life.
Right now I think the big issue is looking at life like this:
[ < -- childhood -- > ] [ < --------------------- adulthood / youth / prime --------------------- > ] [ OLD AGE ]
Basically, our prime time of life is our most self-actualized and also our longest. And, in my current experience going through it, basically every day is fairly comparable to the next, and the one after that... those days are what you make of them. You can be happy, you can be in a relationship, single, etc etc. I'm happy in both, and none of it makes a big difference right now. It's the old age portion of life that's so goddamned terrifying. The part of us that worries about that I think is the one that constantly nags at us to find a partner; The one that says if we don't find a partner, we're gonna feel so unaccomplished and suffocated by loneliness.
I don't know what to make of that nagging. Right now, I've been content to ignore it, for the most part.
Anyways, hope you've been well.
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